sanne Posted September 14, 2005 Posted September 14, 2005 well i'm not exactly sure, but i'm pretty positive that today is the one year anniversary between me and my ex. for some reason the 14th of september keeps coming to mind. i haven't contacted the ex in over a month, and things are getting a lot better I must say. it's a struggle though sometimes, and today is no exception. i wish i didn't have to go to work because it's next to impossible not to think about it because i have almost no work to do today. i was just wondering how you guys get through these kind of special little holidays without breaking down and calling or doing something stupid.
sundrop Posted September 14, 2005 Posted September 14, 2005 Call up a friend and make some plans. That is what I have to do. Today is just a bad day for you, you can make it through. it's been a month so far with out calling your ex, so you can remain strong and make it though today. Best wishes to you.
Author sanne Posted September 14, 2005 Author Posted September 14, 2005 Call up a friend and make some plans. That is what I have to do. Today is just a bad day for you, you can make it through. it's been a month so far with out calling your ex, so you can remain strong and make it though today. Best wishes to you. yea i just made plans to go out to dinner with a friend tonight. gotta make it through work and i'll be ok. funny avatar btw.
sundrop Posted September 14, 2005 Posted September 14, 2005 Thank you, i just changed my avatar. Got bored looking for something to do. Enjoy your dinner tonight and have fun. Today is a not so good day for me too, but we will make it. I woke up about 4this morning thinking of him, and he has been on my mind ALL day. It stinks. I'm waiting for the day when my mind is clear from all this mess.
off2sea Posted September 14, 2005 Posted September 14, 2005 Sanne, The "special" days are tough, no doubt about it. I've gone through all the holidays and significant dates this year and been able to maintain NC. The only exception was yesterday when I dialed her number and then quickly hung up (I guess that still counts as NC!). Bottom line is the urges will pass as they did for me today. When you feel you can't stop, I strongly suggest turning your phone off and putting it in your car or better yet leave it home. That way the temptation won't be acted on.
Author sanne Posted September 15, 2005 Author Posted September 15, 2005 well it's almost 11:30 PM here, and i've almost made it through the day. i have a very strong urge to send a friendly little txt message to her asking her how things are going with her family and life. i know it would serve me no purpose to send it, but the urge is very strong.
dr strangelove Posted September 15, 2005 Posted September 15, 2005 Ok well in my case women usually break up with me after several of my attempts to break up with them. I always had to wait for everything ... when I was in school I refused to go to classm they said fine sit here in the office and do nothing. So I had nothing to do but watch the clock. That was painful but perhaps that where I learned to have patience, detention wasnt so bad.. at least you could read or draw. The first time, I did NC to get back with an ex was with the last one. I literally was in a situation where I felt I wasnt allowed to contact her for six weeks, It was painfully. By the time she broke NC I had bought her flowers and a teddy bear I intended to leave on her porch, no need I found her walking by my shop. And she confessed to wanting to email me, coming to look for me etc etc.. oh and why didnt I contact her? The next time was for 3-4 months. This time I had only email or msn to contact her. And she expressed never wanting contact with me so.. what could I do? Then one day she popped up.. Now im in NC mode again its very rough on me.. except lately Ive made some goals, That helps having things to do. Its rough cause your sad you dont feel like doing things, during one of my breakups with her I literally had to have someone help me get out of bed.. Your not doing so bad, sometimes you have to cut your loses. If they go off with someone else thats one of those times when. Im really sorry that happened to you, Ive never had that happen to me so I dont know what its like.
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