cm12345 Posted September 14, 2005 Posted September 14, 2005 My gf, well ex gf of 2 months dumped me last night pretty much out of no where. I guess all the signs were sort of there though. One night when she was drunk after 2 weeks of us dating, she was already planning out our wedding, told me how I was the greatest thing to happen to her etc. So i asked her what the reasoning was for breaking up and she said I just dont feel the same way you do towards me anymore. I asked well how long has this been, she said I dunno, about a week I guess. I am so hurt right now by this, even though we only dated like 2 months. Im really not sure how to move on and I just wish I could call her to speak to her about everything. Please help with any advice to get me to move on from her, cause im really hurt right now.
Candy Cane Posted September 15, 2005 Posted September 15, 2005 Yeah, don't take it personally. She doesn't know what she wants. She's probably just young and confused. If I were you, I wouldn't get upset over it. You don't want to speak to her about everything. She can't handle it emotionally. That will push her away even more. Tell her you want to be friends....and then take things slow. Don't go out as much. Call her less. Take this relationship MUCH slower or else you're going to end up back here again. But the most important thing you can do is to not get upset over her confusion and you CAN NOT take it personally. It isn't about you, it's her.
Skippy Posted September 15, 2005 Posted September 15, 2005 She just mad. If you had said like two months. Hit NC
Author cm12345 Posted September 15, 2005 Author Posted September 15, 2005 thats what i sort of figured as well. she is 22, im 27. Shes still at that stage I suppose where she wants to go out and have fun as well. We are still on good terms, when we spoke, she mentioned I did absolutely nothing wrong and I was the perfect boyfriend, so I guess I Cant take it personally. When I asked what would happen from here, she said we would still speak here and there but obviously not every day like we used to. Just sucks cause I was soooo used to her, even though it was only like 2 months.
confused12367 Posted September 16, 2005 Posted September 16, 2005 Same exact thing happened to me, and she is 35! Telling me the most intimate, personal compliments, chasing me, loving me, planning a marriage, vacations, etc.Texting me constantly, always wanting to be with me .... Then all of a sudden, she is confused, and not sure if we are "exclusive" She said she feels "smothered" I have been racking my brain, and have no idea. This happened at about 2 months. I just think some people have no real integrity. They say whatever flies out of their mouths, and then later just says "sorry". She even plays both sides when i am leaing her saying, she is just "scared", and love me to death..Which really adds to the confusion.. Do i leave her be? Call time to time?> Pursue? Is it a test? Can she really fall in and out of love that quickly? I have no idea...
Author cm12345 Posted September 16, 2005 Author Posted September 16, 2005 me either man, i have no idea how to react over this. it pisses me off even more knowing she told me i did absolutely nothing wrong. its probably the fac that my ex is just young and has no idea what shes missing out now without me
DesertDweller Posted September 18, 2005 Posted September 18, 2005 Planning a wedding two weeks into the relationship? She sounds impulsive.
BklynGuy Posted September 18, 2005 Posted September 18, 2005 Take it easy. 2 months isnt long and maybe you 2 arent meant to be. SLOW DOWN with this one. Young girls can be especially troublesome. Rushing it with someone isnt the way to go. Take it slow, feel it out, dont give too much too soon. That way of doing things is a setup for failure.
Author cm12345 Posted September 18, 2005 Author Posted September 18, 2005 I hear ya. Well we are broken up and havent talked in days so thats probably the end of this whole situation.
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