I can't figure this girl out

[Lamen454]

I'm having a really hard time figuring this girl out. We talked for awhile and went out a few times. She was really into me and then one day she simply wasn't. I think it might have been the really bad depression she suffers from but not entirely sure. So we basically stopped talking but were still "friends" on social media. She randomly started liking some of the stuff I post one day. I didn't react to hers. About two weeks ago, I noticed she posted a problem she was having and after several hours no one had reached out to her so I did. We ended up talking all day.

 

A couple days after we started talking she made a facebook post saying "that she can't trust anyone and doesn't feel like she can date right now" Yet, every day since she has continued to text me multiple times a day even so far as asking how my day has been. Which is highly unusual being that neither of us is any good at small talk and thus have always avoided asking such things. She randomly sent me a picture of herself a couple days ago which is also a big thing for her because she has a poor self image and thus loathes taking pictures.

 

She hasn't said anything about liking me but she's going about things the same way she did last time. Myself, she knows that I'm interested in her but after things fizzling out last time I've been a bit more standoffish than normal. Leaving text conversations instead of trying to keep them going,not asking her out. I just sort of feel that being that she's the one who ended things last time that it should be her that pursues me. I've made it known that I have an interest but I'm not going to put myself all in if the feeling isn't mutual. I may be reading too much into it but when she simply won't say I have no clue.

 

She's in a bad way right now which might be why she's not saying anything. She had to move back home a couple years ago due to medical problems. Her family talks bad about her behind her back anytime she tries to go out. They basically say she's a bad mother if she so much as steps out of the house for anything other than work. Her job's insurance provider sent her a letter that effective first of January they will no longer be covering the insulin she needs for her Type 1. The generic that they will cover she is allergic too.

 

Right now just sort of in limbo. I'm doing my own thing like I normally would but have no idea what to do where she is concerned.

[Larry56]

I'm having a really hard time figuring this girl out. We talked for awhile and went out a few times. She was really into me and then one day she simply wasn't. I think it might have been the really bad depression she suffers from but not entirely sure. So we basically stopped talking but were still "friends" on social media. She randomly started liking some of the stuff I post one day. I didn't react to hers. About two weeks ago, I noticed she posted a problem she was having and after several hours no one had reached out to her so I did. We ended up talking all day.

 

A couple days after we started talking she made a facebook post saying "that she can't trust anyone and doesn't feel like she can date right now" Yet, every day since she has continued to text me multiple times a day even so far as asking how my day has been. Which is highly unusual being that neither of us is any good at small talk and thus have always avoided asking such things. She randomly sent me a picture of herself a couple days ago which is also a big thing for her because she has a poor self image and thus loathes taking pictures.

 

She hasn't said anything about liking me but she's going about things the same way she did last time. Myself, she knows that I'm interested in her but after things fizzling out last time I've been a bit more standoffish than normal. Leaving text conversations instead of trying to keep them going,not asking her out. I just sort of feel that being that she's the one who ended things last time that it should be her that pursues me. I've made it known that I have an interest but I'm not going to put myself all in if the feeling isn't mutual. I may be reading too much into it but when she simply won't say I have no clue.

 

She's in a bad way right now which might be why she's not saying anything. She had to move back home a couple years ago due to medical problems. Her family talks bad about her behind her back anytime she tries to go out. They basically say she's a bad mother if she so much as steps out of the house for anything other than work. Her job's insurance provider sent her a letter that effective first of January they will no longer be covering the insulin she needs for her Type 1. The generic that they will cover she is allergic too.

 

Right now just sort of in limbo. I'm doing my own thing like I normally would but have no idea what to do where she is concerned.

 

So remember when you guys went out and everything seemed OK and then she suddenly wasn't into you. That's the part you should focus on...She was the one who decided she didn't like you.

 

because I can guarantee you (like alot of people on here) that her depression/anxiety/whatever has nothing to do with her feelings towards YOU. That's something you're creating in your mind because you're empathizing with her situation.

[Garcon1986]

Welcome to LS. This girl is probably treating you with lots of mixed signals because she has a lot on her plate and can't focus dedicated energy to dating.

 

Ask yourself - what does she actually bring to the table?

 

What makes her such an awesome girl?

Since she's explicitly told you she's not ready for dating, these mixed signals will continue until which point she independently chooses to either leave or be a good date. You can't force this when she has so many conflicting things to tidy up in her life.

[basil67]

Lamen, there's nothing here to indicate that she wants you as anything more than a sounding board for her woes.

 

Also, be wary of those who's negative posts on social media are ignored. The reason the rest of didn't respond is because they are all drama and we got tired of it. It's a red flag. Also be wary of those who post on social media about not being ready to date or trust - because they are generally not ready to date or trust.