MivoUK Posted December 13, 2018 Posted December 13, 2018 (edited) Problem is I’ve never been good at asking a woman out face to face. The majority of girls I’ve dated I have met online. I should be good at it because my job involves talking to 150+ New people each day and build relationships with them but I’m still not good with women. Started a new job recently and completely fell for one of my co workers. She’s 18 and Muslim although not overly religious. Being a new job, if I asked her out and she didn’t feel it then I fear it would make continuing in the company a real problem. Although in some ways I do think she’s interested. I do sometimes catch her gazing over. E.g I was sat at the table having dinner, she was in the kitchen and I noticed her staring at me in this trance like state. I look at her then she looks away quickly. Noticed that lots in different situations. Just little things like that, she can be fairly touchy and she always calls me a Gladiator ect lol. So my question, how can I let this girl know that I like her, but in an indirect way. I want her to know that I like her but in a subtle way... Possible? Edited December 13, 2018 by MivoUK
mortensorchid Posted December 13, 2018 Posted December 13, 2018 Oh ... I would stay away from that if I were you. Getting involved with people you work with is dangerous on many levels. Coworkers are NOT FRIENDS, and they are especially not lovers. Find friends / lovers outside of the workplace. It's easy to think that coworkers are friends because you spend more time with them than you will anyone else, but they will stab you in the back and burn you at every opportunity. Put this aside and go on. 1
Author MivoUK Posted December 13, 2018 Author Posted December 13, 2018 Oh ... I would stay away from that if I were you. Getting involved with people you work with is dangerous on many levels. Coworkers are NOT FRIENDS, and they are especially not lovers. Find friends / lovers outside of the workplace. It's easy to think that coworkers are friends because you spend more time with them than you will anyone else, but they will stab you in the back and burn you at every opportunity. Put this aside and go on. The problem is that I work 74 hours per week every week. I’d either have to date a co worker or stay single... The only people I’m really with is the ones I work with. Most of the time we sleep together, work and eat together. They’re all definitely good friends. I wouldn’t be anywhere near the place I’m at now without them all. Yes I know, it’s a rather odd business that I’m in lol.
Garcon1986 Posted December 13, 2018 Posted December 13, 2018 A simple way is to put a note on her desk or mailbox that is inconspicuous. A muslim lady will especially want to keep things discreet because, depending on how religious they are, a strong belief in their system is to not be advertising your prettiness and rely on your skill rather than your beauty to attract mates. You will also have to be conscious that a professional muslim lady is going to be very sensitive to things that could be perceived as sexual harassment, potentially more so than the traditional British lady. You are playing a dangerous game, risking becoming a #metoo statistic and being penalized at your job. The safest way to go about this is to go to scenarios where you can see her more often and chat with her, to judge her interest level. Then you can pass her notes under the table or something similar to judge if she will go out with you. Just remember the consequences if this goes wrong. 1
Author MivoUK Posted December 13, 2018 Author Posted December 13, 2018 does she wear hijab? No she doesn’t wear Hijab. She’s also not completely Muslim. Her mother’s Muslim and her dads American. Hence she’s just super chill. She doesn’t pray, drinks alcohol and has no problem about laughing at dirty jokes and rude stuff. That’s probably one of the main attractive things about her. She’s not even the prettiest in the office but her personality is what makes her most attractive.
Author MivoUK Posted December 13, 2018 Author Posted December 13, 2018 (edited) A simple way is to put a note on her desk or mailbox that is inconspicuous. A muslim lady will especially want to keep things discreet because, depending on how religious they are, a strong belief in their system is to not be advertising your prettiness and rely on your skill rather than your beauty to attract mates. You will also have to be conscious that a professional muslim lady is going to be very sensitive to things that could be perceived as sexual harassment, potentially more so than the traditional British lady. You are playing a dangerous game, risking becoming a #metoo statistic and being penalized at your job. The safest way to go about this is to go to scenarios where you can see her more often and chat with her, to judge her interest level. Then you can pass her notes under the table or something similar to judge if she will go out with you. Just remember the consequences if this goes wrong. I guess it wouldn’t be the end of the world even if she did reject me. As I could always switch offices to a different city. Being self employed I can technically switch to any of the companies offices as it’s all in my contract with them. She’s definitely not a professional Muslim lady... So all good with that. I do chat to her a fair bit. We usually have breakfast with 2 other guys from the team every day and we also chill for a while at night. But I sometimes just don’t know what to talk about with her. Definitely not sure what to talk about that would give her an idea that I like her. Do you think I could give her an idea like from eye contact, comments and behaviour? Would like to do it more slowly and easily than a note on her door. I wasn’t really that interested at first but the company has had us travel around the U.K. together on work business. Then the note time I spent with her the attraction just grown really. What I want really is for her To know that I’m interested in her but indirectly. Basically in a way that I can deny it if she doesn’t feel the same. ... Super over thinking all this lol. Just not good with women �� Edited December 13, 2018 by MivoUK
Garcon1986 Posted December 13, 2018 Posted December 13, 2018 Then you want to take the woman's approach in dropping indicators of interest, staring in her eyes a little longer than normal, touching the shoulders, staying close to her, joking with her a little more often, joking with her about R rated jokes, etc etc. She will hear your message loud and clear because that's a woman's specialty, giving indirect messages. Judge how she returns the favor and you will know.
smackie9 Posted December 13, 2018 Posted December 13, 2018 How to let her know? by asking her out for coffee on your break, then talk. That's what most men do, simply chat up the girl and ask her for her number or a date.
mortensorchid Posted December 13, 2018 Posted December 13, 2018 I have sighted this example many times now and I still have scars from it... I had a thing for a coworker about 4 or 5 years ago. I put a present in his box in the office anonymously. When he rejected me once I relieved myself I think I cried for an hour or so. I replied very Daniel Craig and said "Well love makes you fat, doesn't it?" I still hurt, it was quite humiliating. I don't know why I was so hurt by it but something inside me changed and not for the better. I fear this will happen to you.
alphamale Posted December 14, 2018 Posted December 14, 2018 No she doesn’t wear Hijab. She’s also not completely Muslim. Her mother’s Muslim and her dads American. Hence she’s just super chill. She doesn’t pray, drinks alcohol and has no problem about laughing at dirty jokes and rude stuff. That’s probably one of the main attractive things about her. She’s not even the prettiest in the office but her personality is what makes her most attractive. in that case you might have a chance with her
preraph Posted December 14, 2018 Posted December 14, 2018 It doesn't sound like you even have time for a relationship or even a date. What's up with that?
alphamale Posted December 14, 2018 Posted December 14, 2018 It doesn't sound like you even have time for a relationship or even a date. What's up with that? who knows preraph?
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