Christina859090 Posted September 14, 2005 Posted September 14, 2005 A few days ago I found out my boyfriend of almost 3 yrs isn't the guy i thought he was. He was always loving caring, and the serious type. He told me i was the only girl in his life and that he only said and did certain things for ME, not for any other girl before in his life. I would always get jealous over stupid things like him checking other girls out and having stupid chat buddies on the internet. But everytime he would call me a psycho and assure me that im overreacting. Even In the beginning of our relationship he had this stupid girl from France that he had been telling he loved and all these things, i confronted him, and he said it was only a internet thing.He has kicked me out of his car a few times as well and cursed mean things to me when he gets mad. However, everything is going well and im in love with him more than i ever was, and i trusted him completely cuz he has been busy with work. I start to feel instincts of checking on him again and I went on his email. I found an expiration of "adultfriendfinders.com" I visited the site and found nothing but nasty sluts looking for sex in your area. It turns out he has subscribed to this website twice, the dates were while we were together and i was graduating college. I KNOW its him b/c of his name, profile, card#, and so on. he had ordered this for 2 months July, and August. Nervously my heart thumped 100 beats per second and i began shaking. But there was still more to come......I found out he has a profile which says "Ladies I'm looking for fun, no relationships, I'm interesting, fun and outgoing, and Im open to anything, "lets PARTY" By this time Im almost dying and shocked but i still havent seen any sign of him talking to anyone of meeting anyome.He has no buddies, and it seems her hasnt been on the site in a while. However, soon i find the link that would crush me. I clicked and saw all the girls he had been gawking at, and probably masterbating to. I find this one blonde girl "JuicyBabe". He had sent her a message saying he wasnts to f her and he would do many things to her, and for her to message him back. She also lives in NY, where he WORKS. Unfortunatly, he didnt get a message from her b/c he had no picture. Later i get into a huge fight with him and he calls me almost all the names in the book on top of it! He totally denied he ever subscribed and called me a psycho once again! I hated him so much for days, and still do! It was my brithday the next day, I turned 20 on a sad leaf of being alone for a while and he turned 30 just yesterday. As things get even more dramatic, i didnt eat, sleep or breathe right for a whole week. I still feel pain in my heart. I cried myself to sleep each night. The problem is he denied it and blamed his brother, and then FINALLY he admitted he was only playing. that he would never go through with it and meet her or cheat on me. He said he never has. Deep in my heart i feel he hasnt, but I dont trust him at all anymore, becaous just the fact that he said those nasty things to that ugly slut i feel betrayed. Now i feel like all those times i was jealous i was Right! I get suspicous of incidents with him and i dont feel like i can ever trust him like i used to=( To make things worse i dig more into his stuff, I typed his name into google and found another sight he had been on for years which isnt sex related, but more like chat of ethnic backround. I found his past life before me (dates of chats) was partying and many girls. He seems like he loves attention from girls, he had his picture up for many to see. However, the only new things i found was about 6 messages from two girls in France and some other place. He had been chatting just normal with them, and viewing thier pix. This one girl a red hed, he seemed to like she is a pretty girl and he kept asking her of her tatoo's and piercings. He was also asking her of her parents , origin, and if she is ever comming to the USA!!!! He got me flowers, candy, and champain, and is luring me with gifts and sweet words. He forced himself to my parents house on the day of my brithday and he is very persistent! I feel like he is one sneaky man, i dont know him anymore. I keep telling him lets be friends and to stop calling me and finally today he has stopped. Then why do i feel im missing something?????????????????????? I wanna get over him so i can go on with my studieds and my life. I want my life back, but he was my life. A part of me still wants him, but my head tells me to forget him, he decieved me. There was no excuse for this, I gave him everything he wanted and i was faithful 100%. I used to make way just to see him, I lied to my parents and everyone i know to be with him. He was my first boyfriend and love. I also gave him my virginity:( I have soo much mixed emotions inside i feel like i will burst. Can someone Please give me advice, what should i do?
francis Posted September 14, 2005 Posted September 14, 2005 i just left a guy who was writing emails to four other girls, the content was gross, i found out just a month into the relationship, and I left him last week, ended it because I just couldnt cope with the distrust and deceit and lies, even if it was an 'internet thing'. I feel for you, I really do. Just realise what a loser this guy is, you may love him, so you are more readily willing to make excuses for this lousy behaviour but he has shown total disrespect to you and you should get out now.
francis Posted September 14, 2005 Posted September 14, 2005 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t70216/ the original post i wrote
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