oneinamillion93 Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 So I have a thing on a guy at work (I know, not again). We working in the same building but for different companies, different floors. The first few days when I was still a newbie I kind of noticed him already. Time passed by, I don’t know why but during this time I rarely see him at the canteen anymore, and boom, for like a month already I see him around a lot. Maybe it’s just pure coincidence until he kept showing up around me, sometimes right behind in the line getting coffee. I recently got a project and have to go to his floor a lot, once I was passing by his area and bumped into him, then from his floor I went straight to the rooftop with friends, he was with his friends atm and he low key followed me up there, we kinda secretly glanced at each other the whole time, was standing face to face (but do it when other look away) The next morning he showed up at work in the canteen dressed up nicely, which is surprising because he totally changed the way he dress, and we bumped into each other only once that day. Am I being overthinking and this is nothing? Or should I make a move like give him my number? Cause my intuition kept telling me he has a thing for me. Needed to say we never talk or smile at one another, he’s really shy, he won’t look at me in the eyes, only when I look away. Any advice on this? Thanks a lot guys.
olivetree Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 Based on what you said I can't tell if he's into you. Could be coincidences. Personally I'd rather be pursued as a woman and wouldn't be interested in a man who didn't smile at me or talk to me.
preraph Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 He might be interested. Look, bottom line, you have absolutely nothing to lose by simply being smiley and friendly with him next time you see him. Then he can be friendly back, etc.
smackie9 Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 How about starting with this "Hi what's your name, I'm ____" 1
Author oneinamillion93 Posted December 12, 2018 Author Posted December 12, 2018 Based on what you said I can't tell if he's into you. Could be coincidences. Personally I'd rather be pursued as a woman and wouldn't be interested in a man who didn't smile at me or talk to me. I’m on the same boat, but talking realistically, we’re kinda strangers who work in the same place, we’re not even colleagues or same department etc. I was a shy girl and rarely smile at the guy I super into because I was so nervous I could talk to anyone but him. So I can understand him from this pov. He might be interested. Look, bottom line, you have absolutely nothing to lose by simply being smiley and friendly with him next time you see him. Then he can be friendly back, etc. I’ll try. The problem is we only see each other at breakfast. Tried to look for him at lunch but couldn’t, it was impossible How about starting with this "Hi what's your name, I'm ____" Not even a smile how can I process this
Grey40 Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 You might have to break the ice and start the conversation, but if you're really interested it might be worth it. He could be thinking the same thing about you. Could also just be coincidence. But if your gut is telling you that there's something there, I always believe there's some truth in it.
Lotsgoingon Posted December 13, 2018 Posted December 13, 2018 You: "it seems like we've been running into each other a lot. It's kinda of funny. Hi, I'm X." That can start a conversation ... and through talking you can find out what's up or if you even like him. 1
smackie9 Posted December 13, 2018 Posted December 13, 2018 Not even a smile how can I process this It's called confidence by taking a shot and smile...smiles can be contagious.
Author oneinamillion93 Posted December 13, 2018 Author Posted December 13, 2018 It's called confidence by taking a shot and smile...smiles can be contagious. How about slide him my number in a note? I don’t get to see him that frequently
Lotsgoingon Posted December 13, 2018 Posted December 13, 2018 Slipping a note sounds a bit like high school. Don't mean to shame your idea ... but you don't know this guy ... You don't even know if you want him to have your number. You don't know if he's married ... or just out of prison. That's why you want to talk to him, and go slowly ... he might have zero to say to you ... Fine ... or he might be crushin' on you but have no social skills. Fine. You're just introducing yourself. That's not a big deal and not even necessarily a sign of interest on your part. But you can start talking to him. See if he's WORTH giving out your number to.
Gretchen12 Posted December 13, 2018 Posted December 13, 2018 How about slide him my number in a note? I don’t get to see him that frequently No. You don't do that without acknowledging each other first. Frankly this sounds like school kids stuff. You should say hello like adults. He may not be interested in that way. People will look at you when they feel you looking at them. And if you say you weren't looking, well then how did you know he looked at you? Hmmm...?
Author oneinamillion93 Posted December 14, 2018 Author Posted December 14, 2018 I rarely see him these days. Guess we’ll see.
smackie9 Posted December 14, 2018 Posted December 14, 2018 You say you have bumped into him from time to time...there was your opportunity...just wasted. A lot of guys do nothing unless a lady pays some kind of attention to him, like a flirty smile or a sultry stare from across the room. I have don't this myself. They look behind them to see who I'm looking at and realize it's them I'm making eye contact with...it enough for them to come over and talk to me. Boom done.
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