Jacobbb Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 (edited) Hello everyone, so here is my story. There is a girl in my university and during this year I got a lot closer to her than before. I like her a lot and we text often. She cares a lot about me from what I can tell and she always asks if something is wrong if I haven't spoken to her. It's kinda weird because when we are at university she doesn't talk to me a lot but when we are at a party she always sits next to me and talks a lot. So a few days ago we were at a sleepover with a lot of people from the university and at a certain point I got tired and went to bed. She called me after a while and told me that she will come in my bed. There were 2 more guys in the room and she came and laid next to me. She was half naked so i started making out with her and she wasn't against it. We didn't have sex, because there were other guys there and it would have been awkward but it was still pretty intimate. The next day nothing happened, we didn't talk but the day after that she came to me and told me she didn't want our friendship to get ruined. She said it was good that no one from the university saw us. I don't understand that. She came to me and wasn't even that drunk that night. What does she mean, I just don't get it, if she wants to be friends why does she act so sexual all the time? I don't know what to do. Edited December 12, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs and merge threads
d0nnivain Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 While half naked she climbed into bed with a guy she liked with other people in the room. In the light of day she was happy no one saw because she was afraid of being judged as promiscuous or worse for her behavior. She likes you. Step up your game & ask her on a proper date already. 1
preraph Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 I agree with D0nnivain. She has done the ultimate to show you she likes you. And yet you have yet to ask her on a date. She doesn't just want to be a hookup. She wants you to ask her on a real date and date her and treat her with respect. 1
Author Jacobbb Posted December 12, 2018 Author Posted December 12, 2018 While half naked she climbed into bed with a guy she liked with other people in the room. In the light of day she was happy no one saw because she was afraid of being judged as promiscuous or worse for her behavior. She likes you. Step up your game & ask her on a proper date already. But I don't understand why is she always saying things like "Im such a great friend, you should be proud of me" and why would she say she doesn't want our friendship ruined.
Garcon1986 Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 People don't necessarily say what they mean. Many men would pay money to have the problem you have right now. It is rare as rare can be to have a woman volunteer first, and choose freely, to be physical with a man before the first date. She probably mentioned that thing about being friends because of the adrenaline and rush of the moment. Plain old friends don't take their clothes off for each other I would interpret this as she wants to be physical with you and also be your proper girlfriend. Go on some dates and see how things go - express the manly confidence inside.
preraph Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 But I don't understand why is she always saying things like "Im such a great friend, you should be proud of me" and why would she say she doesn't want our friendship ruined. Well, she's the one who climbed into bed half naked and made out with you and seemed to enjoy it, so actions speak louder than words. I think in this case, she may have just been trying to see if you liked her at all by letting you know she felt you were friends. Of course, in the light of day, she may have regrets about making out with you, but here's the thing: You have NO chance if you don't stop being insecure to the point of a girl makes out with you and you still aren't sure she likes you. If you don't step up and ask her on a real date, you'll still lose here. Is there a tiny chance she might have some reason she'll say no because maybe she regrets making out? Sure. But there's no reason for you to fear rejection here because she has made ALL the moves and you've done nothing except take advantage of her being your bed. You need to ask her out on a real date pronto, a date where she knows it's a real date, not some "want to hang out" or "a bunch of us are going here," but "Would you like to go out with me Friday night?" At least the fact that she's made all the moves should keep you even from having to embarrassed if in fact she does have some reason she shouldn't date you, despite her actions, because she did everything to give you reason she'd say yes.
olivetree Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 she always saying things like "Im such a great friend, you should be proud of me" Who says that? Lol.
smackie9 Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 (edited) Read this and it will explain everything The Ladder Theory - Ladder Manifestations You will never get in her pants, and she isn't interested in dating you....she is emotionally using you. She seems to think it's ok to just befriends, but it isn't OK when you want to smash. Edited December 12, 2018 by smackie9
Grey40 Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 (edited) Ask her on a legitimate date where it's just you two, one-on-one. She what she says. If she's not down with the idea, pull back a lot and be much less friendly. If you like this girl and don't want to be "just friends" then don't be. That's a long, tough road to go down and 9/10 times once you're in that friendzone it's really difficult to ever break out. You pretty much have to say, "I see you as more than a friend, if you don't that's cool, but I can't keep hanging around you if that's the case. Sorry". Sometimes that will actually make them realize what they'll be losing, and they'll consider it. And if they disappear completely, you're saving yourself a lot of wasted time wondering, hoping and praying they like you. trust me. Edited December 12, 2018 by Grey40
Grey40 Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 Ask her on a legitimate date where it's just you two, one-on-one. She what she says. If she's not down with the idea, pull back a lot and be much less friendly. If you like this girl and don't want to be "just friends" then don't be. That's a long, tough road to go down and 9/10 times once you're in that friendzone it's really difficult to ever break out. You pretty much have to say, "I see you as more than a friend, if you don't that's cool, but I can't keep hanging around you if that's the case. Sorry". Sometimes that will actually make them realize what they'll be losing, and they'll consider it. And if they disappear completely, you're saving yourself a lot of wasted time wondering, hoping and praying they like you. trust me.
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