fred123 Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 i have been on a few dates with a girl since end of october. seeing her again this week. both been pretty busy. i wanted to ask her if she wanted to do new years and hang out. is that too much too soon? we are not boyfriend and girlfriend so is it wrong to ask her to want to do something or even to join you and your friends for that evening? i also have my best friends birthday on the 28th of december and he is doing something at local bar with friends etc. Shall i ask her to come to that or is not a no no?
SophieG Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 i have been on a few dates with a girl since end of october. seeing her again this week. both been pretty busy. i wanted to ask her if she wanted to do new years and hang out. is that too much too soon? we are not boyfriend and girlfriend so is it wrong to ask her to want to do something or even to join you and your friends for that evening? i also have my best friends birthday on the 28th of december and he is doing something at local bar with friends etc. Shall i ask her to come to that or is not a no no? If I were you, I'd ask. She might be happy you invited her, or she'll tell you that she thinks it might be too soon to meet your friends. And she might have plans for the NY, but you can always suggest something in between if she's busy. How do YOU feel about it? Would you like to spend the New Year with her? I think it all depends on the relationship you have with her.. you've been on a few dates, you're both busy, but do you keep in touch often? Do you have another date coming up? 1
d0nnivain Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 Absolutely ask her for NYE & to your friend's thing.
Author fred123 Posted December 12, 2018 Author Posted December 12, 2018 If I were you, I'd ask. She might be happy you invited her, or she'll tell you that she thinks it might be too soon to meet your friends. And she might have plans for the NY, but you can always suggest something in between if she's busy. How do YOU feel about it? Would you like to spend the New Year with her? I think it all depends on the relationship you have with her.. you've been on a few dates, you're both busy, but do you keep in touch often? Do you have another date coming up? yes i asked her monday to do something this friday. i work evenings until 930pm normally but this friday i finish at 730 so i suggested we go for a walk then got to a local nice pub after for dinner and dessert. she said yes to it. we keep in touch. shall i ask her over text or in person?
Cersei Posted December 13, 2018 Posted December 13, 2018 I vote for In person or at least on the phone.
Author fred123 Posted December 13, 2018 Author Posted December 13, 2018 quick update. spoke to her on the phone. man a bit annoyed. fridays so called date she said now she might be meeting her friend who she hasnt seen in ages. we had a plan?!! i planned it since mon pfft. anyways i played it cool. i asked her about new years eve and my best friends birthday and she said she will let me know as shes not sure of her plans. what i do now?
preraph Posted December 13, 2018 Posted December 13, 2018 She's not that interested or she wouldn't have done that. Any of that.
Author fred123 Posted December 13, 2018 Author Posted December 13, 2018 She's not that interested or she wouldn't have done that. Any of that. how do u know? it may be too early. also she lives like 40 mins away and xmas is a busy time you know
DrNo1962 Posted December 13, 2018 Posted December 13, 2018 quick update. spoke to her on the phone. man a bit annoyed. fridays so called date she said now she might be meeting her friend who she hasnt seen in ages. we had a plan?!! i planned it since mon pfft. anyways i played it cool. i asked her about new years eve and my best friends birthday and she said she will let me know as shes not sure of her plans. what i do now? Dude when a girl cancel's a date you need to wait for her to do the counter-offer. If she doesn't, you just say hit me up when you've figured out when you're free again and we will plan something then. .....and walk away.....that's it. Never offer someone ANYTHING after they have just blown you off. It shows low-value. Have the power to walk away and let her come to you. If she's interested she will come to you and you can then set the next date. I wouldn't be thinking about NYE or your friend's party with her. Make other plans for NYE now. 1
smackie9 Posted December 13, 2018 Posted December 13, 2018 When you are not a priority, there isn't enough interest there to go on.
rightondude Posted December 13, 2018 Posted December 13, 2018 man player i hate to say it but it's not looking too good for you with this girl; after flaking on your planned date and choosing to do something with someone else you had this happen: "i asked her about new years eve and my best friends birthday and she said she will let me know as shes not sure of her plans. Well crap, if she's not sure of her plans then she wasn't exactly swept off her feet by your offer, and is wanting something better to come about. Sorry man I hate it for you, been there and done that. Move on and tell her to contact you when she's free.
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