ElisabethTheGreat Posted December 11, 2018 Posted December 11, 2018 We started to chat online dating app some 4 weeks ago, clicked asap. At start he was very flirty and light, classical Sag man. But since we moved to WhatsApp he started to be more serious, thoughtful and personal. I was talking with a friend that got me on this app, and in chat found out we talk with same man. Which is fine, I’m also chatting with different persons. My issue is, that with her, he’s different, rauchy and very sexual. Not much in to personal, just plain carnal. Last 10 days he cut contact with her completely. Althouhg he's visit dating app every 3-4 days. We finally met after 2 weeks of chatting online, all went great, there is evidently some chemistry. He was perfect gent btw. He sent me follow up text literally 12 min after we went apart, sending texts first thing in the morning, and we texting each other daily since Really like this guy, makes me all fuzzy and forget all the crap from every days crap! It's just that he is clear 9,close to 10...and I'm at my best days 6 I have to admit, that because of previous experiences I'm a bit insecure, but he don't know it, as have always my most confident, wittiest, coolest and funniest face Actually everyone see my confident and strong personality, some one you go when you need help.. And telling me that they admire my strong will and independency...but rarely anyone knows how insecure I actually am. So help me before I get ulcer Which one could be real him? Both? None? Just a player
DrNo1962 Posted December 11, 2018 Posted December 11, 2018 Hi Elisabeth, there are a couple of observations I'd like to point out that may help you navigate your situation. 1) Do not get attached to any outcome at this stage. You don't know the guy and even though he makes you feel warm & fuzzy, there is no obligation for commitment at this stage. Just take a few steps back and let things flow organically. 2) The above applies for over-analyzing such as how he was to your friend and how often he logs in to the dating app. None of that matters. What matters is how the two of you interact and the connection you build together. 3) Focus on his actions and not his words. Is he courting you? That means is he establishing times to meet each week to go out on dates or is he just stringing you along with regular "check-in" text messages to keep you in his orbit? 4) Never have a diminishing mindset or be intimidated by someone else's attractiveness. The fact that you see him as a 10 and you only as a 6 is a limiting belief that you need to get rid of ASAP. Why can't you feel like a 10? If you are attracting a 10 (which isn't just looks by the way), then you must be a 10 as well. Start feeling like you are worthy and drop this limiting mindset otherwise he will notice that you don't feel like you're enough for him and he will drop you soon enough. Hope that helps
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