rocketfanatic Posted September 14, 2005 Posted September 14, 2005 I discovered by doing a little snooping that soon to be husband had a fling with co-worker. when he was confronted he denied it saying that someone at work was trying to do some damage to others. I got an email from someone, by the way. so, things have been great since the confrontation and now he is even talking negatively about the OW. Should I believe it is over? What are your thoughts? Thanks!
bluechocolate Posted September 14, 2005 Posted September 14, 2005 Has he admitted that he had an affair with this co-worker? If not, I'm not sure how you can believe it's over when he denied that it ever happened in the first place.
whichwayisup Posted September 14, 2005 Posted September 14, 2005 That's a tough one. How do YOU feel in general about it? Has this made you stop and think about the marriage? If it was an actual affair and not just some flirting can you get past it and trust him again? How long did it last and how long ago was it? Need abit more info to help you.
Author rocketfanatic Posted September 14, 2005 Author Posted September 14, 2005 I discovered by doing a little snooping that soon to be husband had a fling with co-worker. when he was confronted he denied it saying that someone at work was trying to do some damage to others. I got an email from someone, by the way. so, things have been great since the confrontation and now he is even talking negatively about the OW. Should I believe it is over? What are your thoughts? Thanks! He hasn't admitted he had an affair, just the opposite. I know it isn't currently happening because of his schedule and our time together and his very apparent displeasure towards her. I first found out about it at the end of May. However, nothing was said until beginning of August and only then because I couldn't take the prospect of it being true so close to our wedding. I feel like everything between us is perfect. Our communication is better, our sex life is great and we are really enjoying each other. I just know what to believe and if he really did cheat.
bluechocolate Posted September 14, 2005 Posted September 14, 2005 I feel like everything between us is perfect. That's me confused then. Did he have the affair or not? If you sincerely believe that he did & he isn't owning up to it then that makes him a cheater and a liar (those two usually go hand in hand). In which case, why are you even contemplating marrying this guy?
Author rocketfanatic Posted September 14, 2005 Author Posted September 14, 2005 I'm pretty sure he had the affair based on the emails I read. However, nothing has happened between them since June and I know that for sure. I'm not sure what I'm looking for on here but I just wanted someone else's thoughts because I haven't told anyone.
sylviaguardian Posted September 14, 2005 Posted September 14, 2005 You don't seem very concerned about the affair. If he has been having an affair before you even got married, what hope is there for the future? Especially when he doesn't even admit it. Do you want to be someone you know to be a liar?
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