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There is a guy who is emotionally distant with me but then shows me interest like a push and pull force which triggers my anxiety. I subconsciously hyperventilate and get a sore chest. It is unlikely he is ever going to change. I hate not knowing where I stand. What is the best way to move on? Should I avoid seeing him person at parties? How do I not think of him? I don’t get anxious otherwise.

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Change your self talk. Remind yourself that he's a manipulative game player not worth your effort. Stop letting yourself get pushed or pulled. Just be & don't react to him. As he's speaking to you concentrate on your breathing. If you have anxiety you need to learn breathing techniques to calm yourself. Employ them in his presence.

 

Also while you don't have to avoid him at parties you need not spend the whole party with him. Learn the art of breezing through a conversation. Say hello; spend a minute on small talk then excuse yourself to go mingle with others.

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More detail kinda needed here. How is he emotionally distant and then how does he show interest?

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Yes avoid him at all costs if he triggers your anxiety. Lucky for you you don't work with him so it should be easy to avoid him.

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