Should I stay to pursue love?

[Air20]

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Should I stay to pursue love?

 

by Air20 » Today, 15:10

Hi,

 

I've been on several dates with a guy I really like. We've both never had proper relationships and we click.

 

I applied to study a Master's abroad starting in March next year. I quit my job a few weeks ago, however due to a mix up with the application, I won't be able to start until September next year.

 

I hate my job and don't really have regrets about quitting in that sense. Before I met this guy, the plan was always to quit the job anyway and then go back home to Wales to find a job, if I wasn't successful for the Master's application, or go travelling.

 

If I end up leaving town, I think I could really regret leaving something special behind. I've actually applied for some other jobs where I am at the moment and this is because of the guy I'm seeing. I'd only stay to be with him. Some of the jobs are paid less than what I'm doing currently.

 

Do you think this is a good idea? I know it could pressure him knowing I'm only staying around because of him. Maybe it wouldn't work out. The plan was always to leave this town anyway as I wasn't happy with the job and I'm bored of the town.

 

 

 

I could find someone else, but can't help thinking what if this guy is the one.

Advice greatly appreciated, thanks

[d0nnivain]

Master's degree programs are what 2 years? By the time you leave you & this guy will have 9 months under your belt. With all the communication options at your disposal, you can make an LDR work for a finite period of time.

 

Never give up long term education or a life long dream for someone you are not married to or did not give birth to.

 

In the short term get a new job. Living without employment for 3 months is one thing . . .9 is something else. See if you can take a course or two on line toward the degree before September rolls around. You want to keep your brain fresh.

[olivetree]

Agree with Donnivan.

 

I would not give up the MA unless it's not something you're really into either.

 

Imagine you decline the program now and then you two don't work out in the interim.

How are you going to feel?

 

If he's really the one, you'll make it work apart or he will come with you.

[Noproblem]

If I understood this correctly, you are not giving up your education because of the guy, but your application got postponed for 9 months from now.

So you have two options either live in Wales or stay in this city until the program begins, right? You don't plan to ditch your master?

 

If that is the case, then yeah why not, stay and enjoy your time until the master program starts and then you would have to leave.

 

But keep in mind, you might get too attached to this guy and then you'll have a hard time adjusting to the master program, later on, I assume it's in another city.

 

I don't know. Sometimes we stay and regret it and sometimes we leave and regret it. There is no right answer, but what the point of you trying and doing all the work.

 

What matters is his opinion, does he really want you to stay for 9 months before your master program starts oh does he not care!

[olivetree]

Ahh, after reading the comment above, if you're wondering if you should stay a while before your MA begins then I don't see the big deal either way.

 

Sure, you could go get settled sooner before your MA or you could see where this goes over the next several months.

 

If you really feel like he could be the one, then yes, I would stay and enjoy your time together before you leave .

 

It could lead to something permanent or at least a good experience.

[Air20]

Hi,

 

Thanks for all your replies. I wouldn't give up the Master's to stay here, I'm just not sure whether to stay here or go home. If I was starting the course in March I'd be sad to leave him, but would accept that's just the way things are. It's just leaving now would be difficult as there's more time we could have together, now part of me wishes I hadn't quit my job