loverx Posted December 9, 2018 Posted December 9, 2018 I have meet with girl that i know her from online dating app, she was with friends and were not even planning to meet at that time. She left me a lot mixed signals we had nice chat and laughing a lot, and i have said to her that i want to see her again next day and she said maybe if she has free time( and we didn't meet next day) so there was no mixed signals from me, i have shown interest and i am sure she know that. On other side she was texting her friends constantly(maybe because music was loud, and they was unable to talk), she didn't try to even look at me when we were not talking. After the date when i was home i got instant message from her saying: "Sorry I don't know what impression I left " (neutral smily) And at the moment i understand that like she was thinking that maybe she shown bad impression??? And i texted her back that i liked her and asked her what impression i left to her and she said "you are just like you said in your texts " and we said goodnight. The next day i texted her and she was very slow responding to me with one-two words like she is not interested. And she confused the hell out of me at this point. After i analyzed that text i am thinking that maybe she wanted to tell me that I misunderstood her and she is not interested?
DrNo1962 Posted December 10, 2018 Posted December 10, 2018 I have meet with girl that i know her from online dating app, she was with friends and were not even planning to meet at that time (Never agree to meet a girl for a first date when she's hanging with her friends. Politely decline and ask her when she's free one evening for the two of you to get together 1on1). She left me a lot mixed signals we had nice chat and laughing a lot, and i have said to her that i want to see her again next day and she said maybe if she has free time ("Maybe" signified low intererst from her. You need to be prepared in that moment to walk away...literally). (and we didn't meet next day) so there was no mixed signals from me, i have shown interest and i am sure she know that. (Yes but at this stage she has shown very low interest in you.) On other side she was texting her friends constantly(maybe because music was loud, and they was unable to talk), she didn't try to even look at me when we were not talking. (No, she was texting her friends constantly because she was not interested in engaging with you. Also if you are trying to strike up a conversation with someone and they just keep looking at their phone, you should walk away immediately. That's a sign of rudeness and you are being a doormat letting someone treat you that way. If you value yourself, you wouldn't tolerate someone playing with their phone when you're trying yo converse with them.) After the date when i was home i got instant message from her saying: "Sorry I don't know what impression I left ��" (neutral smily) And at the moment i understand that like she was thinking that maybe she shown bad impression??? (She's probably feeling bad that she blew you off during the time you met, probably because she didn't want to hang out with you in that situation or she is just trying to save face). And i texted her back that i liked her and asked her what impression i left to her and she said "you are just like you said in your texts " and we said goodnight. (Never ever do that. EVER. Especially the second part. You are qualifying yourself to her which is needy nice guy behavior and very unattractive). The next day i texted her and she was very slow responding to me with one-two words like she is not interested. (So now you are over-pursuing. You hardly went on a date and you are now starting to blow-up her phone. She feels indifferent to you or has low interest and you are scaring her away). And she confused the hell out of me at this point. (There's no confusion. You need to learn to read the signs better as I have outlined above). After i analyzed that text i am thinking that maybe she wanted to tell me that I misunderstood her and she is not interested? (Yes she is not interested or her interest level is extremely low. I would forget about her, move on to another girl and learn from your mistakes. You learn with practice so good on you for getting out there, don't stop trying just because of one rejection.) My response in bold and parenthesis. 1
Author loverx Posted December 10, 2018 Author Posted December 10, 2018 My response in bold and parenthesis. Thanks for the replay, looks like you are right
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