snowcones Posted December 9, 2018 Posted December 9, 2018 It's a simple question and in reference to romantic relationships. You can only pick one or the other in this game, not both.
chillii Posted December 10, 2018 Posted December 10, 2018 Not possible , it's gotta be the combo of the two.
Author snowcones Posted December 10, 2018 Author Posted December 10, 2018 Not possible , it's gotta be the combo of the two. I specifically designed the game to not have the option of both because I know how uncomfortable it is to pick one or the other, but you have to only pick one or the other. It's something I'm grappling with. If you have to only pick one or the other, which one do you pick?
Simple Logic Posted December 10, 2018 Posted December 10, 2018 Win the head and the heart will follow. 1
chillii Posted December 10, 2018 Posted December 10, 2018 l know ya did but like l said not possible. But if it was l'd go with my heart. 1
Kitty Tantrum Posted December 10, 2018 Posted December 10, 2018 Head. I only allow my heart to operate and make decisions within the parameters that my brain has established as acceptable. 1
Author snowcones Posted December 10, 2018 Author Posted December 10, 2018 Head. I only allow my heart to operate and make decisions within the parameters that my brain has established as acceptable. Whenever I've tried to do that (set parameters with my brain) I end up with someone who is perfect on paper, but I feel absolutely nothing for. It's hard for me to function within that. I feel dead, like a walking zombie. On the other hand, whenever I go with my heart I end up with someone who makes my heart feel so full and alive, but he is all wrong for me.
Sarah_Smiles Posted December 11, 2018 Posted December 11, 2018 I was always all in with the heart and it failed me so I would say head from now on for me.
basil67 Posted December 11, 2018 Posted December 11, 2018 I guess I will have to pass on this game....
Mr. Lucky Posted December 11, 2018 Posted December 11, 2018 You can only pick one or the other in this game, not both. Them I'm going to say head. I have to like and respect someone before I can love them. Although I have been led astray by "none of the above", namely other parts of the body... Mr. Lucky
Kitty Tantrum Posted December 11, 2018 Posted December 11, 2018 Whenever I've tried to do that (set parameters with my brain) I end up with someone who is perfect on paper, but I feel absolutely nothing for. It's hard for me to function within that. I feel dead, like a walking zombie. On the other hand, whenever I go with my heart I end up with someone who makes my heart feel so full and alive, but he is all wrong for me. Me, on the other hand... I could fall in love with a big sack of potatoes if I spent enough time rationalizing it.
loversquarrel Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 Head if I want a safe bet. Heart if I want to take a risk. Depends on how selfish or afraid one is. My current relationship I was very fortunate for both, but heart it was at first. Most of my relationships have been heart first. Both can have a limited shelf life though. 1
Author snowcones Posted December 12, 2018 Author Posted December 12, 2018 Head if I want a safe bet. Heart if I want to take a risk. Depends on how selfish or afraid one is. My current relationship I was very fortunate for both, but heart it was at first. Most of my relationships have been heart first. Both can have a limited shelf life though. Yes this is a reasonable answer and I agree. You have been fortunate, I hope I am too.
loversquarrel Posted December 12, 2018 Posted December 12, 2018 Yes this is a reasonable answer and I agree. You have been fortunate, I hope I am too. Well if it helps I went through hell and back with a few toxic relationships before I ended up where I am. I started dating her when in my mid 30's and her in her mid 20's. If you are young you still have time, don't give up on yourself and strive for both and you will be happy.
Johnson1 Posted December 17, 2018 Posted December 17, 2018 Win the head and the heart will follow. Nice. Excellent quote. Spot on true.
Lorenza Posted December 17, 2018 Posted December 17, 2018 Head. When you choose wisely, the heart follows. Slow burn romance is more reliable, imo. 1
The Introvert Posted December 17, 2018 Posted December 17, 2018 I go heart at first then start rationalising just afterwards and for me rationalising seems to always be in conflict with the heart as the brain rarely endorses the heart's desire. If we are to rationalise isn't there always a missing piece that makes nothing add up. Yea I agree with the previous poster that with heart it depends on risks you prepared to take. ....but ultimately i would say heart, to me it feels natural that way, with the mind it becomes more of transactional than relational.
Wallysbears Posted December 17, 2018 Posted December 17, 2018 Head. You can "lust" after a total loser. Or have chemistry with a complete waste. And you can fall "in love" with people that bring nothing positive to your life. If you follow your head and keep your wits about you and only surround yourself with and/or date people that meet what your "head" deems appropriate...then your heart won't be hurt by the bad apples because you don't open your heart up to them.
LastStraw Posted December 17, 2018 Posted December 17, 2018 Heart. It is shocking to me how many people ignore their basic instincts, I’ve done it too in the past. Usually the heart, or the ‘gut’, is telling us all we need to know, we can find the rationale later if we dig for it. My very best relationship, with the man I’m with now and hopefully we’ll be together for good, defied all logic, on the surface. Now an year later... I know that my heart was giving me the correct signal 1
Oak Posted December 20, 2018 Posted December 20, 2018 My heart turned cold a year ago after discovering my now ex's cheating.
thefooloftheyear Posted December 20, 2018 Posted December 20, 2018 Yeah....Go with your head.....Just don't come back here complaining that the sex sucks or is non existent... TFY 2
Lorenza Posted December 20, 2018 Posted December 20, 2018 Yeah....Go with your head.....Just don't come back here complaining that the sex sucks or is non existent... TFY Trusting your "heart" has even more potential problems, in my book.
Artdeco Posted December 20, 2018 Posted December 20, 2018 Head! Heart will follow if the conditions are right.
GoodOnPaper Posted December 20, 2018 Posted December 20, 2018 Whenever I've tried to do that (set parameters with my brain) I end up with someone who is perfect on paper, but I feel absolutely nothing for. I have no doubt that this is exactly what my ex-GFs would say about their experiences with me . . . Then I do the same thing, well not “feel absolutely nothing for” but let my brain override my heart too much, when I finally meet someone more legitimately interested in an LTR.
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