JiltedJane Posted December 9, 2018 Posted December 9, 2018 I started seeing this guy two months ago. At first I thought he was everything I had Been looking for. Hot, funny, friendly, adventurous, wants to get married and have kids. He sent me flowers unexpectedly the one day. The whole package. However over the last four weeks he has become more erratic and desperate. First I’ve noticed a drinking problem. He drinks excessively and when he he does he’s a whole other person. He becomes unpredictable,sloppy, and forceful. He’ll make fun of people at restaurants who are minding their own business.Almost like frank from shameless. He introduced me to his family after a month and talk excessively about us getting married and pregnant. He sounds like a desperate woman. He’s constantly keeps telling me how much he likes me and how obsessed he is. I’ve caught him in numerous lies including having had an STD test. So right now I’m having a break down, even though we were safe. Last night in particular, he had his arm around me and literally stared at me heavily breathing with a creepy smile on his face the whole time while watching tv. When I’d hesitantly look over he’d sigh and say something “ like I’m obsessed with you,”. He then kept asking me if I’d even kill someone and was getting upset when I’d say no. He friended me on Facebook and put us in a relationship without asking me. He then freaked out saying he didn’t see my relationship status on my page and wanted me to change my profile picture on Facebook to one with both of us in it. He also demanded I delete any pictures with my ex in them. He also confessed to stalking the profiles of a few of my friends and was mad that I’m in the profile picture of my good friend who happens to be gay. He knows this but doesn’t want people thinking me and my gay friend are a couple. His sister even posted a comment on my profile asking for me to put up a cute couple pic. He got so intense and bizarre last night that I told him he was freaking me out. He started laughing maniacally abd then passed out. I went to bed, and when he came in he kept trying to sleep on top of me. He’s 200lbs and I’m 98! I kept telling him to get off me because I couldn’t breathe. But he would either roll on me again or squeeze me so tight I again couldn’t breathe and he’d be breathing heavily on my neck. I’ve told him before I’m not a cuddler, but he keeps trying to get us to sleep facing each other. I’m freaking the f*cj out. I know I gotta leave but idk how. Plus anyone I’ve told thinks this **** is sweet and romantic and that I’m just freaking out because I’m used to aloof hard to get guys. One of my other exes got like this before turning violent. Please let me know what you guys think about all this. For those who decide to read my other posts, please don’t bring them up on here. I want to focus on this current issue.
stillafool Posted December 9, 2018 Posted December 9, 2018 It doesn't matter what your friends or we here at LS think. He is creeping you out and making you uncomfortable. Break it off and block him from contacting you because obviously he isn't the guy for you. 1
diddilybop Posted December 9, 2018 Posted December 9, 2018 he doesn't seem to be mentally stable - which could really affect your personal safety. break it off.
ExpatInItaly Posted December 9, 2018 Posted December 9, 2018 You know you need to get away from him. He doesn't sound like he's mentally sound. Tell him firmly that you won't be able to continue dating him. He's going to pressure you for reasons why. Keep it simple, and don't waiver: we are not a match. Don't feel the need to over-explain, don't offer to be friends, don't second-guess yourself. Your gut is talking to you. What I would recommend, though, is that you improve your confidence enough to walk away when you first see red flags. You mentioned an ex was like this before he turned violent, and I can see why you're on high alert now. You know signs of trouble when you see them, evidently, so you need to be strong enough to bail when you first get the impression something is off. 1
smackie9 Posted December 9, 2018 Posted December 9, 2018 (edited) Are insane? You don't need to ask us for advice...you are a grown ass woman, you KNOW what you need to do! get the hell out of there! geeeezzz Louise! Tip: drinking problem should have been your first clue to dump this chump. Edited December 9, 2018 by smackie9 1
basil67 Posted December 9, 2018 Posted December 9, 2018 End it today. Then block him on all social media. If you're concerned for your safety, start documenting any stalkery behaviour and take it to the police.
preraph Posted December 9, 2018 Posted December 9, 2018 He sounds big and creepy. Block him. Don't give it another thought. I'm sorry he knows where you live. One ending text to him: "This isn't working out for me, so please do not try to contact me again. Have a good life." Put it in writing and save it in case you have to call police when he shows up at your house. 1
Versacehottie Posted December 9, 2018 Posted December 9, 2018 Yep run....and fast. He sounds unstable and sometimes people with drinking problems come in fast (and then clingy) because alcohol is number one and they like being in a relationship so they aren't really thinking stuff through and considering things like a normal guy would. Actually all the controlling stuff is a huge red flag, not to mention the staring and literal smothering. Boy, bye.
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