sheilabezi Posted December 9, 2018 Posted December 9, 2018 (edited) I am a little lost and confused about something and would appreciate some external advice. I’m currently taking a gap year with my sister and just got back from a 3 month trip to Madrid, Spain. During the last month we would go almost twice per week to this famous churros place called “Chocolatería San Ginès” and there was a waiter there who caught my eye ever since the first time I saw him. As we would go there a lot, the waiter noticed and recognized us and I felt a “bond” create between the two of us as we made eye contact. At first I thought I was just making things up and romanizing things but I realized I wasn’t when he finally made a move. That day he looked and smiled at me more than he usually did and I could see he was kind of pacing around our table. Two other waiters who seemed to be close to him also couldn’t stop smiling at us as if something was going to happen. He then came up to us and placed 2 porras (a bigger version of a churro) as well as their famous hot chocolate with whipped cream on our table. He said it was a little present for me and hoped I would enjoy it (this happened last week, aka my last week in Madrid). When we left we obviously thanked him and he said “please come back so I can see you again”. I unfortunately didn’t have time to go back until my last day but when I did go, I thanked him once again but told him I was leaving the next day. He seemed pretty upset and insisted that I’d stay and eat something so we could talk and eventually get a drink later together but I didn’t have time because I had to catch my flight, so we gave each other a kiss on the cheek (a common thing to do in Europe) and he asked me to come back to Madrid as soon as possible. Now, for anyone who knows the place I’m talking about (San Ginès), you would know that that place is always extremely full and the waiters there don’t have a minute to themselves as they are always running around satisfying their clients. There would have been no way for us to exchange numbers at that moment, it was already almost impossible to speak with him for a minute. Now I’m back home and I feel like I would have wanted to get to know him. I don’t know if it’s because my emotions are all over the place since I just got back from a wonderful experience in another country or if it’s my gut telling me I should have done more. I thought I could maybe find him on social media but I only have his first name and haven’t come up with any results. The only “way” I could connect with him would be through my host brother who still is in Madrid for 11 days. What would you do in my place? Would you use my host brother as a way to get in contact with the guy or just let it go? Also, how can my host brother help? Should he just go to the place and give the waiter my number or would that be weird? Also fyi, I live in Europe as well so just 2h away from Madrid by plane and speak Spanish, so there isn’t any language problem. Thank you in advance for your help and advice! Edited December 9, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Cersei Posted December 9, 2018 Posted December 9, 2018 I don't think I would put much effort into a search for him. He could have easily left you his number with the food had he wanted to. Also, even if you were to find him does a long distance relationship appeal to you?
Author sheilabezi Posted December 9, 2018 Author Posted December 9, 2018 I don't think I would put much effort into a search for him. He could have easily left you his number with the food had he wanted to. Also, even if you were to find him does a long distance relationship appeal to you? You’re right, he could’ve done that, that’s exactly what I told my sister but she said maybe giving us the food was a test to see how I’d react. Giving his number at that moment could’ve been seen as a creepy move as that was our “first” real interaction and I’m kind of glad he didn’t. As for the long distance relationship thing, I don’t mind that much because for some reason, anytime I have a thing with a guy, he’s always from another country 1
dispatch3d Posted December 9, 2018 Posted December 9, 2018 I wouldn't pursue anything with him if I were you, he's from a different country and you barely know him (from your description). I realize you got the feels for him but that's more common than you realize I think...
smackie9 Posted December 9, 2018 Posted December 9, 2018 If he means that much to you, Call the restaurant and ask for him. They probably have a website where you can get that info.
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