enchanted771 Posted December 9, 2018 Posted December 9, 2018 Met someone and we hit it off. For the first 2 weeks, we were spending a good amount of time together and we would talk on the phone almost daily. Then he started to show his true colors. I would call, he would reject my call most of the time, my texts got ignored, he wasn’t making any effort. It hurts, but I’m pretty convinced that he played being in a relationship with me because he wanted sex on a regular basis, when it’s convenient though. He didn’t have any for several months, so of course he doesn’t want to go back to that. he makes no effort to plan dates. He told me from the beginning that he doesn’t like to go out at night much. It’s actually a bunch of bs. He went out a couple times since I met him but not with me. He doesn’t call me and see how my day was, send me random texts. His texts are cold and aloof. He tried to play it off like he’s so busy and wants to take things slow, but I know this is an excuse so he doesn’t need to make a real effort with me and as long as I will accept bread crumbs he will keep up the charade and get sex when he feels like it. Sad that a 44 year old man is this way. Then I found out he married for money and is separated. I confronted him and asked him why he didn’t tell me this before he met me. He tells me I wouldn’t have wanted to meet him. A supposedly religious man and it’s ok to lie? I haven’t gotten a chance to speak to him to break up but maybe it’s just better to text or just ghost. It’s not like he really deserves any courtesy from me anyways.
FMW Posted December 9, 2018 Posted December 9, 2018 If he's not putting in any effort with you then there is no need to say anything to him or officially break up. Just move on. Nothing you say is likely to make any difference to him and is unlikely to help you either.
Author enchanted771 Posted December 9, 2018 Author Posted December 9, 2018 If he's not putting in any effort with you then there is no need to say anything to him or officially break up. Just move on. Nothing you say is likely to make any difference to him and is unlikely to help you either. thanks I was leaning toward that, and then it just accelerated when I found out he’s separated from an illegal marriage. When exactly was he planning on telling me??? He will text me most likely when he’s lonely so I can ignore.
ExpatInItaly Posted December 9, 2018 Posted December 9, 2018 thanks I was leaning toward that, and then it just accelerated when I found out he’s separated from an illegal marriage. When exactly was he planning on telling me??? He will text me most likely when he’s lonely so I can ignore. What does that mean, separated from an illegal marriage? If he is actually married, I assume it was done legally. Block this guy forever. He's a waste of time.
Author enchanted771 Posted December 9, 2018 Author Posted December 9, 2018 What does that mean, separated from an illegal marriage? If he is actually married, I assume it was done legally. Block this guy forever. He's a waste of time. it is illegal to marry someone so that person can gain citizenship. And he was paid a sum of money which I’m guessing was a good amount of money...
ExpatInItaly Posted December 9, 2018 Posted December 9, 2018 it is illegal to marry someone so that person can gain citizenship. And he was paid a sum of money which I’m guessing was a good amount of money... Okay, now I understand. You didn't specify earlier that this was why his marriage is fraudulent. He married under false pretenses, but when it comes down to it, he is still married. I wouldn't even be sure that his story is true, and that he's not simply a married man on the prowl for side action. His wife might have no idea that's the story he tells people. It would sure explain a lot about why he sometimes dropped off the radar and didn't want to be seen out at night with you. This man is a dud, no matter how you look at it. He is dishonest and not invested the way you are.
Simple Logic Posted December 9, 2018 Posted December 9, 2018 (edited) <snip> A supposedly religious man and it’s ok to lie? I haven’t gotten a chance to speak to him to break up but maybe it’s just better to text or just ghost. It’s not like he really deserves any courtesy from me anyways. Have some fun. Text him and tell him your breaking up because he is lousy in bed. Then block him. Edited December 9, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Truncate quote 1
stillafool Posted December 9, 2018 Posted December 9, 2018 it is illegal to marry someone so that person can gain citizenship. And he was paid a sum of money which I’m guessing was a good amount of money... That's his business , not yours. He treats you like scum, so block him and move on.
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