ieele Posted December 7, 2018 Posted December 7, 2018 If they regret it months later do you still have a chance? maybe not getting back together weeks later but months or years?
Heartbroken_xx Posted December 7, 2018 Posted December 7, 2018 Maybe... but if they changed their mind once, how can you trust them again? 1
amaysngrace Posted December 7, 2018 Posted December 7, 2018 Sometimes you don’t appreciate what you have til it’s gone. And sometimes you desire someone else but it doesn’t work out so you go back to choice #2 because you know they still desire you and it’s an ego boost for the hit the one you actually desire just landed.
basil67 Posted December 7, 2018 Posted December 7, 2018 Has your ex expressed regret? Generally speaking, it's possible that you could get together again in the future. One of my friends recently remarried her ex-h. But it's also possible that you may have moved on and found something even better.
ExpatInItaly Posted December 7, 2018 Posted December 7, 2018 If they regret it months later do you still have a chance? maybe not getting back together weeks later but months or years? Usually one or both parties have long moved on if years pass and there is no reconciliation. Holding on to hope that you might reconnect years down the road is very unhealthy. That aside, what's your real question, OP? Are you sensing your ex regrets breaking up with you? Or hoping that she does?
fromheart Posted December 7, 2018 Posted December 7, 2018 Its not if you have a chance with them, but if they have a chance with you. They did the dumping after all. Its rare that a dumper doesn't dump again. Why go through that a second time, when there are thousands of potential partners to choose from?
d0nnivain Posted December 7, 2018 Posted December 7, 2018 It depends. First you have to know what broke you apart in the 1st place. If you can figure that out & it has been resolved, there may be a chance. But if everything is still status quo what are you really going back to?
Cersei Posted December 7, 2018 Posted December 7, 2018 Every break up I have had whether the dumpee or dumper I tend to get a little lonely after a few weeks and question if the break up was a good idea. I think it's only natural to do this. But time and time again the break up was indeed a good idea. (Proven by both reconciliation or reflecting back on the relationship)
smackie9 Posted December 7, 2018 Posted December 7, 2018 I agree you breakup for a reason, but you tend to not acknowledge what that reason was, hence you still pining for them weeks or months later....but you do eventually figure it out with much relief on the decision made.
Author ieele Posted December 7, 2018 Author Posted December 7, 2018 Usually one or both parties have long moved on if years pass and there is no reconciliation. Holding on to hope that you might reconnect years down the road is very unhealthy. That aside, what's your real question, OP? Are you sensing your ex regrets breaking up with you? Or hoping that she does? She had shown a lot of signs. She's tried to FaceTime me and talked to me and visit me.
Lotsgoingon Posted December 7, 2018 Posted December 7, 2018 Well this gets complicated ... because people can "regret" breaking up with someone ... precisely because they are not around the person all the time. So you can "afford" to feel regret because you are away from the person. More directly to your question, regret over breaking up does not necessarily mean the relationship can resume. People can change a lot from time of breakup to ... time of regret ... and time of attempted revival of the relationship.
MissBee Posted December 7, 2018 Posted December 7, 2018 It depends. First you have to know what broke you apart in the 1st place. If you can figure that out & it has been resolved, there may be a chance. But if everything is still status quo what are you really going back to? Ditto. My current partner and I are back together after a 2 month separation that I initiated. I wasn't the "dumper" though and it wasn't about being dumped so much as she made a choice that left me with no other choice. Our relationship had come to a crossroads where I needed something she wasn't willing or able at the time to give and I didn't see how else we'd move forward without it so I decided to end things for both our sakes. But I also said clearly what the issue was and that if during the separation she figured it out then I'd be open to being together again, as why we broke up wasn't a lack of love or incompatibility or things going badly. All that to say is, all breakups aren't created equally and the how and why of the breakup is the most important factor in second chances. This is the only relationship breakup where I've gotten back together with the person and where it's better and stronger than before. However, that's cause of what the problem was. Every other breakup I've experienced needed to stay broken even if periods of missing the person was involved.
kendahke Posted December 7, 2018 Posted December 7, 2018 If they regret it months later do you still have a chance? maybe not getting back together weeks later but months or years? No. Nor do I want any chances. The damage was done with the breaking up. I don't care the reason. There is no need to take him back because if months or years have gone by, I've moved on and either I'm with someone else or I really don't want to be bothered with him anymore.
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