Feel such a fool: Relocated for him and he immediately dumped me.

[Heartbroken_xx]

Hi Heartbroken,

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Believe me when I say I know how you feel because I went through something similar a month or so ago (please check my posts).

I struggled with everything you are, especially the why. Why did he let me uproot myself if he didn’t want to be with me? Was it all a lie?

Unfortunately you may never get the answers to these questions (I still haven’t) but what you must remember is that you do not deserve to be treated this way. You loved this man with all your heart and this is how he repays you? He is the one missing out, you deserve so much more.

 

Thank you for your comment!

 

I'm so sorry to read about your situation (I went back and read the posts!). I hope that you're feeling better and on the road to recovery. Considering the distance you moved that's even worse!

 

I really don't understand the lack of empathy on these guy's parts. If someone was moving countries for me I'd not let them do it if I had even the smallest doubt. It's also cruel considering the upheaval of life, the moving of things, and the fact that it ends and you're in a foreign place without your support network.

[hotpotato]

I really don't think that there is or was another woman involved. When we are apart he is constantly giving me a play by play of his day and in constant communication. He's also quite shy and reserved and not that type really. It's just he is constantly hopping between really nasty and cold and really apologetic and nice.

 

Regardless, I hope you stay away from him. He sounds like a stalker. What are the laws like where you are. He literally sounds like the people on those stalking shows. They are nuts, and the switch violently between being cruel and being nice. Please, please cut off all contact with him.

[stillafool]

I can't believe you are still seeing this guy. Dump him and block.

[Saracena]

This guy sounds unhinged, OP.

 

No doubt about it at all, he IS unhinged. In fact, I wouldn't be surprised at all if he hasn't got a serious mental illness. His behaviour is very disturbing.

 

OP, please do not engage with this guy on any level, any further. I'd look into blocking him and moving because I fear it will have to come to this as I cannot see him taking no for an answer. I'd even alert the local police at this point.

Edited December 9, 2018 by Saracena