Normal Busy For the Holidays?

[magicallydelicious]

I’ve been dating a man that I met online for just over a month now. Things have been going pretty well, and we’ve seen each other once, occasionally twice a week since then. We also talk every day throughout the day. We haven’t had the talk or anything to define what we are, and have taken it slow physically (read, no sex, just fooling around) cause I think we’ve both been burnt in the past. He’s usually pretty good about setting up plans, and when we spent last weekend together, he told me that he wants me to meet his family when his brother comes home for the holidays.

 

Today when we were talking, he asked me if I could keep the 23rd open to meet his family, and so after I followed up asking if we were seeing each other this weekend (we both have crazy schedules during the week and live 45 min apart) so it’s usually easiest to meet up on weekends. He told me that he is spending most of his time this weekend with his dad helping him prep for the next few weeks and shopping and his aunt is having a big dinner on Sunday but he would see if there’s a chunk of time we can get together.

 

So, my last relationship basically ended because my ex said he couldn’t spend more time with me, when it was basically a BS excuse because we make time for things that are a priority, so I think I might be sensitive about anything that is reminiscent of that.

 

I guess I’m just trying to figure out if what the current guy is doing is normal and maybe I’m just being too sensitive about it and how to react accordingly with him.

[alphamale]

you're being to sensitive

[greymatter]

Yes, it's normal to be busy during the holidays and even to not see each other every single weekend in general, if things come up (not that it happening regularly would be good). You are just beginning to get to know each other. Don't let what has happened in past relationships sour what seems like a potentially nice thing. Be understanding. He is obviously very interested in you, and he has a life, other people in it, and things to get done that won't always involve you.

[Versacehottie]

too sensitive at this point...just keep an eye on things. not in an accusatory way or looking for problems, just if he is

'the guy" who meets what you needs.

[diddilybop]

i'm with greymatter, don't let your last relationship negatively affect your current one now. this is totally normal. i think it was nice that he invited you to meet his family - that's a good sign. plus, the holidays are a busy time with family, let him do what he needs to do to prep...you'll see each other soon.

[d0nnivain]

If this man is asking you to keep the 23rd open to meet his family at Christmas all is good. The other stuff is just holiday related scheduling problems. If you are bound & determined to see him this weekend, ask if you can help him help his dad.