my girlfriend broke up, but in 3 months we will be living in the same city...

[codename]

My (ex)girlfriend and I were in a long distance relationship for one and a half year living in different countries and only seeing each other every 3 months. A month ago we nearly broke up because it was clear we would not see each other for 5 months, our plans to do an internship in the same city seemed to not work out and she was more distant. But we decided to fight as we love each other. Everything seemed perfect again. But there were some situations when I wanted more communication, as that is also important for a working relationship. In these situations I overreacted leading into small fights. Now some days ago she assumed that I was right and broke up. She said she is not able to comunicate better, that she feels more distant and doesn’t want to be with a person always fighting as it gets her down. In addition she said she saw a couple reminding her, that she wants natural kids (we are two woman, and I am the first woman she loves) and she doesnt see a future with me. Today I saw, that in the end the city she applied to accepted her. I only wanted to go there to be with her but now everything is fixed. I cant quit it anymore.

I feel really insecure in this situation. In three months it is happening of what I have dreamed of the whole last year. But now we are seperated. I want to be with her again, although I myself am not sure if for lifetime, as she is my real first love. But I can’t really ignore the situation and it is really hard to finish with the relationship knowing it. Any advice? What do you think about the situation? How would you act?

[ExpatInItaly]

. In addition she said she saw a couple reminding her, that she wants natural kids (we are two woman, and I am the first woman she loves) and she doesnt see a future with me.

 

I think the distance got her down, yes, but the above is a lot more significant in terms of why she doesn't see a future with you. The above comment from her sounds as though she is considering finding a male partner again. This isn't something living in the same city will resolve.

 

I feel it would be better for you to accept that, ultimately, your life goals are not compatible.

[codename]

I was wondering if that was an additional argument. The truth is that there are many lesbian couples having babys as well. For me this just hurts, as there is nothing I can do about it.