loverboy69 Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 Met up with a coworker after work to have a drink with a group of others. He had been flirty and nervous around me for months so I thought it'd be cool to meet up outside of the office. So we wound up walking away from the group of friends alone. As soon as we sat down he made a nervous laugh then froze. I'm talking a catatonic freeze up. I kept calling his name and waving my hand in front of his face but he just stared out into space with eyes wide open. It was cute and endearing for the first 15 seconds but then it just got strange. After being unresponsive for almost a minute I got worried something was wrong. I've been accused in the past of driving people crazy but my presence has never put someone in the state of psychosis.
smackie9 Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 Don't tolerate it and stop hanging out with him. It's rude, and it's leaving you feeling weird about it....walk away. 1
carhill Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 I've only been in his place once, when out of the blue a MW suddenly jumped on my lap and started investigating my tonsils. I totally froze up. I think it was more due to her H snoring away a number of yards away than anything else. In any event, the moment passed and we worked it out. Another, perhaps lesser freeze up was when a friends wife flashed her tits at me while he was in the shower. Even he said that was out of character for her. Still, no doubt the look on my face would've been priceless to capture since, eh, whoa what a rack she had. Still does actually. So, I guess I tend to freeze up when getting uncharacteristically forward expressions from females who ostensibly are committed to others. Otherwise, can't recall any women/myself freezing up from the circumstances you describe. Sounds like the guy was nervous and perhaps attracted on some level else he'd be as normal in other situations he's had with you. How long did this go on/when did he snap out of it. You said a minute. Longer? How was he after?
diddilybop Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 i don't know, this sounds more of a mental health condition to me. how was he feeling afterwards? did he know what happened? are you both ok?
Saracena Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 I almost wonder if it coulda been a seizure. This is what I was thinking as well. Some seizures are actually as you described- not strictly limited to the full-blown versions most of us are more familiar with. Did /how did he explain things afterwards?
Highndry Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 Don't tolerate it and stop hanging out with him. It's rude, and it's leaving you feeling weird about it....walk away. :lmao::lmao: I seriously LOL'd at your response! That's like saying "geez, it was so rude, the guy had a stroke in front of me. Can you believe the audacity?" 3
smackie9 Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 :lmao::lmao: I seriously LOL'd at your response! That's like saying "geez, it was so rude, the guy had a stroke in front of me. Can you believe the audacity?" I think he's pulling one on her that's my take, like she's the butt end of a joke.
basil67 Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 Loverboy, please tell us you're joking around. How you could think this seizure was about you is beyond me. 2
basil67 Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 (edited) So how long did it last? Did he realise he'd been absent? Did you express concern? Edited December 5, 2018 by basil67
Hurtingguy Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 He was so nervous lol he just really like you and is probably just very insecure with himself, don’t think too hard about it, he might just have social anxiety too I’m sure he feels like a donkey
Author loverboy69 Posted December 5, 2018 Author Posted December 5, 2018 So how long did it last? Did he realise he'd been absent? Did you express concern? Just over a minute. I grabbed my other coworker because I thought something was wrong. That's when we saw the guy walking fast out of the room. Seizure never came to mind to be honest. I haven't talked to him in 2 weeks. I see him at work but sneaks in and out without talking to anyone. He's kind of shy.
preraph Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 Well, now you know he has a big problem. You already knew he was super nervous, so I tend to think this was social anxiety or a seizure or some brain chemical imbalance. So now you know. Why women want to date nervous anxious guys is beyond me once they're fully grown adults.
diddilybop Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 yeah, i'm with preraph. this guy has something going with his health (mental & physical) and it's probably best to not get romantically involved with him.
Lotsgoingon Posted December 6, 2018 Posted December 6, 2018 He definitely has a problem ... serious problem ... WAY WAY beyond "nervousness" ... and "anxiety." It's really his job to explain to you what happened. Poor guy, seems like he's lost in shame, avoiding people. If you have really good boundaries, you could call him and ask what's up ... But only if you have super good boundaries ... meaning you are a person who can say no with confidence and who does not do things that feel horrible just to be "nice: to another. Wow, amazing story ... that you had to go get your friend. That was a reality confirmation for you ... Imagine if this had happened with no coworkers around ... it would have been much weirder.
chillii Posted December 6, 2018 Posted December 6, 2018 lf it was me and l saw him somewhere now l'd have to ask him eh you ok , we lost you for awhile the other day what happened. l couldn't not know the answer haha Besides , it'd clear the air. 1
frankspeci Posted December 6, 2018 Posted December 6, 2018 Um, sounds like he needs to see a doctor. 1 full minute unresponsive? That's way outside the standard symptoms of social anxiety disorder. No matter the cause, that's medically messed up. I wouldn't be ok with someone who's walking around with what sounds like either an untreated health condition or extreme psychological condition, and who doesn't even explain it.
kendahke Posted December 6, 2018 Posted December 6, 2018 Make that the first and last time you waste time on this guy. He doesn't even sound ready for life.
kendahke Posted December 6, 2018 Posted December 6, 2018 He was so nervous lol he just really like you and is probably just very insecure with himself, don’t think too hard about it, he might just have social anxiety too I’m sure he feels like a donkey It's time to either grow up or stay out of the dating pool til he can't handle talking to the opposite sex.
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