Ideas for Xmas gifts

[bathtub-row]

I, too, am in chilly Canada. (Likely the coldest province) and I would be mad if I got this. I am a tomboy and would never wear that. I would be happier with good warms mitts for snow shovelling! Lol

 

But yes something like that for most girls is very appropriate. And be sure to get a nice card.

 

What do you guys think of gift cards as gifts?

 

I think they are good if accompanied with another gift and to a place she will actually use it. I know some don't like them. I love receiving them.

 

I love gift cards, too, but as you say, they should be accompanied by other things if given by a bf, gf, husband or wife.

[darkmoon]

wrap it beautifully, do not go to a shop for this, but use velvet ribbon to tie the parcel stabilized with a lil sellotape, choose the prettiest paper

 

 

I swear by wrapping, it looks caring, like you made effort, which is true

 

 

even if the gift proves to be a bit off, and many are, fancy wrapping is thoughtful

 

 

I think you should buy perfume

Edited December 5, 2018 by darkmoon

[olivetree]

Experiences are better than material objects, IMO.

[Hurtingguy]

I love all the answers really appreciate all the help everyone keep them coming

 

So far I think perfume is a definite yes but I want to give her a couple other small things as well, doesn’t have to be fancy but something that will make her know that I do care and want to eventually have a serious relationship with her

 

I gotta say some of the replies have made me laugh you guys are awesome!!!

[diddilybop]

For sure on the clothing comment. I had a girl friend who bristled at any suggestion of me choosing something she was "supposed to wear." I pointed out some jacket just the once when we were strolling a mall. I didn't even say "you'd look good in it." I only stopped to examine it. This was some control issues with her last partner that she brought up early and often in our dating and demonstrated she wasn't kidding. (Red flag, red flag, run Will Robinson!)

 

haha, i love the lost in space reference. an ex-boyfriend of mine, for some reason, wanted me to have a more raver/burningman style (that was similar to his) but that wasn't me. for my birthday one year, he got me these fuzzy bright pink and green neon boots for the "next time we go dancing"...and i had to seriously use all my strength to work through my grimace in order to smile.

 

 

and yay, OP! i'm glad you've got a better idea of what to get her for the holidays..but whatever you do, just don't get her fuzzy neon boots lol.

Edited December 5, 2018 by diddilybop

[ChatroomHero]

doesn’t have to be fancy but something that will make her know that I do care and want to eventually have a serious relationship with her

 

 

See, this is what I actually avoid because I don't think it works in the way you'd want it to if you are trying to buy a gift to make a statement.

 

 

Any gift you buy that you think says, "I care and want to get serious", 1. won't really say anything other than you bought her and gift and 2. if you buy her say...perfume...and she doesn't like it or answers, "Neat, thanks!", or next time you go out is she is wearing different perfume, you'll kind of be in the position of feeling rejected because your "show of love" will feel like it was rejected if she isn't visually and verbally over the moon with your gift.

 

 

Get her whatever you think she would like but I wouldn't expect it to be a statement of deep love and understanding and proving yourself to her because you bought her a Christmas gift. I wouldn't buy a gift to try to make a statement with if you haven't already made that statement verbally.

 

 

If you don't try to convey a deep meaning with a gift, I bet you'll find a ton of things that she would love and there'd be no pressure on you to get the perfect gift.

[greymatter]

Knowing the posters here as I do, I'm shocked that everyone isn't jumping on you telling you that you've only been dating a few weeks and that anything but a small gift is going overboard for the stage of dating you are in. They must all be feeling the holiday spirit.

 

Personally I would buy something small if you know what she is interested in, something thoughtful and not something too overly romantic given that you barely know each other and it probably isn't a great idea to create huge expectations with a gift that symbolizes a more developed, "further down the line" relationship. You can make the day celebratory without a big gift.

 

How is it that the two of you are spending Christmas day together? Do neither of you have family or friends nearby? How many dates have you had with her?

[Happy Lemming]

Many years ago, I was dating this woman when the movie "Titanic" came out. She wanted to go see it and we went. After the movie, she kept going on and on about how beautiful sapphires were. Sapphire was not her birth stone, but she really liked them.

 

So the next week, I wandered into my local small "Mom & Pop" jewelry store. (they re-sold a lot of estate sale jewelry) The store had a pair of small sapphire and diamond (chip) earrings for cheap, so I picked them up. When I saw this woman that weekend, I gave them to her. Her eyes lit up like a kid on Christmas morning. From that point on, any time I needed a gift idea; I went with sapphires.

 

Has your girlfriend mentioned any stones or jewelry she likes?? Have you noticed what earrings she is wearing or gravitates towards?? Maybe fish around on ebay and see if anything pops out at you?? In my opinion, stay away from lab-created stones and look for natural stones, if possible.

 

My present girlfriend loves opals, so I keep an eye out for any natural opal jewelry on ebay.

[Sarah_Smiles]

Once for a first Christmas gift an ex-got me black onyx and silver dangling earrings with 5 red roses for the number of months we had been dating at the time, I loved it. Another time I was given a silver and purple-faced watch with a black floral strap ( again I loved it) and another one that stands out was a DVD set of a favorite tv show of mine.