Hurtingguy Posted December 4, 2018 Posted December 4, 2018 So just recently started dating someone new been a few weeks and eveything seems so good and fun I really like this woman a lot I’m 36 she’s 41 We’re going to spend Xmas day together and I want to get her something thoughtful and nice as a gift,not sure what to get her though and I just don’t want to ask her what she wants cause I want to show her that I care. Can you guys give me some advice on what to get her I’m stumped lol Money’s not an issue just want to get her something she’ll love !!
bathtub-row Posted December 4, 2018 Posted December 4, 2018 How about tickets to the opera, symphony, or ballet? Everyone should go to the opera at least once in their lifetime. Scarves are always nice. It also depends on the climate you live in.
Author Hurtingguy Posted December 4, 2018 Author Posted December 4, 2018 How about tickets to the opera, symphony, or ballet? Everyone should go to the opera at least once in their lifetime. Scarves are always nice. It also depends on the climate you live in. We live in Canada so it’s cold now.. and she’s not into the other ideas I mean I like the opera it’s awesome those are great ideas Thanks for the reply
diddilybop Posted December 4, 2018 Posted December 4, 2018 i love bathtub-row's idea of going to see a show or ballet. experiences as gifts are really special, and at least to me, can be more special than just a material gift. you could even go for a nice dinner together beforehand 1
bathtub-row Posted December 4, 2018 Posted December 4, 2018 i love bathtub-row's idea of going to see a show or ballet. experiences as gifts are really special, and at least to me, can be more special than just a material gift. you could even go for a nice dinner together beforehand Yeah. It’s something to look forward to and an excuse to get dressed up. OP, does she like books? That’s another option, if she does. Book sets are great like Diana Gabaldon’s series or the Clan of the Cave Bear series by Jean Auel.
d0nnivain Posted December 4, 2018 Posted December 4, 2018 Don't go overboard on the 1st Christmas or you will never be able to top it next year, or even at Valentine's Day. Do not set the bar too high. A luxurious cashmere scarf, a great bottle of champagne, some high end chocolates, a small bottle of her favorite perfume (if you know it), or warm gloves would all individually be appropriate. Although you said money is no object, I wouldn't spend more than $50 - $100 lest she think you are trying to "buy" her affections. While I generally love "event" gifts like a show or the ballet, not for the 1st present. IMO the gift should be tangible but not over the top. You don't want to pressure her into having to take you & it'd be tacky for her to take someone else so . . . tickets for this Christmas, not so much. Next year, sure. 2
alphamale Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 ...I really like this woman a lot I’m 36 she’s 41 why don't you get her a box of Depends undergarments 1
Art_Critic Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 Don't go overboard on the 1st Christmas or you will never be able to top it next year, or even at Valentine's Day. Do not set the bar too high. Start out low, this year.. a note pad and maybe a pack of pens... then ramp it up every year Sex by the tree is always nice.. wait.. I'm married, that ended years ago.. If you live in a cold climate then how about a warm scarf, or sweater...
Happy Lemming Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 Do you know when her birthday is?? If so, birthstone earrings. I've learned over the years, you can't go wrong with a woman's birthstone.
mortensorchid Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 Jewelry can be ... Tricky. If you give the person jewelry that is showing that you are serious. If you want to be serious with her, by all means. But get her earrings or a bracelet. If you are feeling very good, flowers and tickets to a play / theater. Whatever you do, don't give her something practical like a blender. That means that you care for her as a friend but not as a lover. It's also not the cost of an item, it could be a very expensive blender, for example, but it's also practical saying you care but as a friend. This is not a gold digger's guide, this is truth. It's about sorting out who is interested and who is not.
Happy Lemming Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 Whatever you do, don't give her something practical like a blender. All in all, good advice, but... my girlfriend is getting me a new mixer for Christmas. I'm super excited and can't wait to use it. She is excited about eating whatever I make with my new mixer!! 1
Gretchen12 Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 This is the time when you show you've been listening and paying attention. Try not to get a generic gift that you can give a secretary. Because we don't know her, we can only give you generic ideas. I gave our office manager a cashmere scarf last year. Also don't give tickets if she's already a subscriber. You need to know something about her. If you don't, then it's secretary-gift, sorry.
diddilybop Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 see, i feel like clothing items (even accessories) can go 50-50. you really have to know her personal style and if you get it wrong, it's kinda awkward. going to see a band (that you both like) is a safer bet. tickets aren't always extraordinarily expensive and you'll have a good time and it's something you can talk about afterwards.
Cersei Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 This is the time when you show you've been listening and paying attention. Try not to get a generic gift that you can give a secretary. Yes totally this! It does not need to be expensive either. Has she mentioned a favorite TV show or movie? For example if she likes Outander, get her an Outlander calendar and chocolate. Or an Outlander t-shirt. If you put a little thought into it she will be very happy.
Art Anderson Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 (edited) Scarves are fine (really) if you personally have some color and fashion sense about what will complement what she usually is wearing, her eyes, facial skin tone, etc. if you've been paying attention. Otherwise it's just another inexpensive garment. I live in chilly Canada and I like to buy the Pashmina style scarves. Look for a genuine one, not made in China polyester knock offs. Pashmina are to scarves what Turtles are to chocolates or Bailey's is to liquor for a woman's gift item; hard to go wrong. They are classy but don't signal that you're throwing money at a woman when it's too early to expect them to reciprocate your enthusiasm at this time of year. Edited December 5, 2018 by Art Anderson missing grammar 1
Art Anderson Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 see, i feel like clothing items (even accessories) can go 50-50. you really have to know her personal style and if you get it wrong, it's kinda awkward. going to see a band (that you both like) is a safer bet. tickets aren't always extraordinarily expensive and you'll have a good time and it's something you can talk about afterwards. For sure on the clothing comment. I had a girl friend who bristled at any suggestion of me choosing something she was "supposed to wear." I pointed out some jacket just the once when we were strolling a mall. I didn't even say "you'd look good in it." I only stopped to examine it. This was some control issues with her last partner that she brought up early and often in our dating and demonstrated she wasn't kidding. (Red flag, red flag, run Will Robinson!)
Author Hurtingguy Posted December 5, 2018 Author Posted December 5, 2018 why don't you get her a box of Depends undergarments That made me laugh she looks 30 tho 1
bathtub-row Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 A bf once bought clothes for me for xmas, among a slew of other things. When I returned the clothes, I could tell he was insulted even though he said that I should do that if I didn't care for them. A. don't tread down the road of giving clothes; scarves are ok but I wouldn't go too far down that rabbit hole. B. don't tell her it's ok to return whatever you got her and then get all defensive about it when/if she does. Having said all that, my policy over the years is to never return anything a bf or husband gives you. LOL. 1
Cersei Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 I live in chilly Canada and I like to buy the Pashmina style scarves. Look for a genuine one, not made in China polyester knock offs. Pashmina are to scarves what Turtles are to chocolates or Bailey's is to liquor for a woman's gift item; hard to go wrong. I, too, am in chilly Canada. (Likely the coldest province) and I would be mad if I got this. I am a tomboy and would never wear that. I would be happier with good warms mitts for snow shovelling! Lol But yes something like that for most girls is very appropriate. And be sure to get a nice card. What do you guys think of gift cards as gifts? I think they are good if accompanied with another gift and to a place she will actually use it. I know some don't like them. I love receiving them. 1
Cersei Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 And that post of mine just reminded me of a good example of listening. We (me and my guy) went out for a winter evening walk complete with flashlights. It was really nice. While we were out we were talking about if we chose weather appropriate clothes or not. I said "Oh I did not wear the right gloves, My hands are a bit cold." So if he was listening he could get me some warm mitts/gloves for Christmas and be a hero! He did offer me his gloves which I did not take but the gesture was nice. And I doubt he will buy me any. Lol I have tonnes at home, I just wore the wrong ones. But that type of listening will earn you brownie points! 1
Happy Lemming Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 Most stores will give you a "gift receipt", make sure you ask for one (include it in the box). This will make returning the item easier, if she doesn't like it. It never bothered me if a girlfriend returned a gift I purchased for her. That is why I included a "gift receipt" in the box. I'd much rather she return the gift and get something she likes, than let the original item waste away in the back of a closet. Just my two cents... 2
Haydn Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 An Aston Martin Vanquish usually cements a relationship. 3
ChatroomHero Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 Since it's Canada, if she likes Hockey, get her Hockey tickets and a gift card for dinner somewhere near the game. That way you get to see her and go to a game and she can use the gift card for dinner. You can get gift cards for the apparel stores at or around the stadium if she wears team stuff too and you take her to dinner, the game and the shop when you are at the game. It becomes a free date for you! But in the early stages I'd recommend a gift that = you get to see her. Tickets to an event she likes or something that you can do together. Early on I avoid a really expensive or personal gift, basically I avoid buying something to "win" her affection or to show I pay attention...If the relationship is serious enough, you'd know exactly what she wants and the things she is really into and wouldn't need to ask. If you have to ask, best to get something fun and casual. 1
alphamale Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 An Aston Martin Vanquish usually cements a relationship. :lmao: 1
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