someweirdgirl Posted December 4, 2018 Posted December 4, 2018 This is the first time posting here but I figured I would go somewhere where I could get some feedback and possible opinions on my situation. So I have been talking to this guy (we'll refer to him as guy 1) since end of March, we've been friends for about 10 years, talking and texting every so often during those years. Since the end of March we have been talking non stop all day everyday. We've gone on a handful of dates (not a lot really but maybe to the movies) and we usually only hang out every other weekend for one night when I do not have my daughters. We didn't really want to get my children or his daughter involved too soon, but that's all it's been really....seeing each other 2 times a month and basically just texting each other. He said several times he liked me but then on a few occasions we were supposed to hang out, he would basically ghost me (but still text periodically throughout the night saying he fell asleep). So about a month ago, a friend (guy 2) sent me a message asking if I wanted to go to dinner. I've known him for about 20 years. We were basically kids that all hung out in a group growing up. He has recently told me how he's always liked me but I was with my daughter's dad for 11 years and he never had a chance to tell me how he felt. Well he has asked me to actually be his girlfriend after a month of talking and going on dates and I said yes. We have fun together, my kids have met him and like him, my friends like him whereas guy 1 never introduced me to his friends or was ever interested in meeting mine. Now that me and guy 2 have the title of BF/GF, guy 1 has completely changed and now wants to tell me that I'm the girl for him, the reason he was so standoffish was bc he was scared to be in another relationship, he never knew he had these feelings for me until now and I need to break up with guy 2 and be with him. My question is why??? Why is he doing this? It's hard too because I really liked guy 1 and told him that so many times but he never acted on anything or tried to take anything a step further with us after 9 months. Now I'm confused. Oh and to make things worse, guy 1 is so much better in bed than guy 2. Any feedback and/or opinions would be greatly appreciated!!
kendahke Posted December 4, 2018 Posted December 4, 2018 So, you've had some form of romantic involvement with G1--it's just not what G2 brought? Is there any reason why you haven't asked G1 any of these questions? I mean before now--like back when you started reconnecting. If you did, what did he say?
Author someweirdgirl Posted December 4, 2018 Author Posted December 4, 2018 (edited) I did ask guy 1 why he was just now telling me all of these things and his response was "Well i was being guarded and didn't want to show my sensitive side". There were so many times that I told him "Hey man, I really like you a lot, I'm trying to spend time with you, I know we're both busy people but im trying to make an effort when im NOT busy to at least see you and hang out." He was never really affectionate either the time we would be around each other. Now he is always wanting to come see me "just for a hug" and yada yada yada....the direction I felt was going with me and guy 1 was more of a sexual one. That's how he made it feel to me at least, but when we first reconnected, no it was never really mentioned as to what we planned on doing. We just would talk all the time, go camping together and just basically started as friends first. Edited December 4, 2018 by someweirdgirl
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