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Me and my ex gf broke up, we still have lab and clinical together

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so my ex gf broke up with me and i have been trying to cope with it. It was a 3 or 4 month relationship and it has been about 2 weeks since break up. She wanted to be friends and normally I would just no contact my exes, but we are assigned to sit next to each other and see each other 5 days a week because we have lab and clinicals together. So I agreed to keep it friendly and cordial.

 

I am trying to put up a strong face and be friendly and cordial, but it is usually me that is doing it. So I decided to stop and we were sitting in class not acknowledging each other and it was so uncomfortable. My friend who is sitting next to us said he can feel the tension. I decided to break the ice by just light talking with her and stuff. It sucks cause she broke up with me and I don't want it to be uncomfortable cause then I can't focus in class. My friend says don't talk to her or acknowledge her. He said if it was him he would make it uncomfortable as possible. My thinking is that we still have 2 weeks of school left so just be friendly and cordial, but if I don't initiate she won't initiate. IDk what to do. My thinking is that we just have 2 more weeks to deal with this so just keep it light and make it to break, but then it messes with me a bit because we get friendly and its like we are dating again.... idk what to do. I am trying to deal with break ups but they hurt a lot.

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Since you only have 2 weeks left to see her, I wouldn't worry about it too much. You just have to get through these 2 weeks. You can be polite to someone without engaging them. It's awkward, but it's only for a short time.

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lovers Established Member

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Since you only have 2 weeks left to see her, I wouldn't worry about it too much. You just have to get through these 2 weeks. You can be polite to someone without engaging them. It's awkward, but it's only for a short time.

 

It hurts a lot. I haven't been getting much sleep and everytime I wake up its like oh wow we are broken up.

Lotsgoingon Established Member

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Oh man, I feel your pain ... I truly do. Sometimes it's really hard to go NC.

 

In situations like this, you just have to play games with your mind. A friend of mine would say something to you like, remind yourself that you are being at least passably warm to her not to help her but to help you.

 

To take a different view, it's totally OK to be really uncomfortable sitting in class with her right now. Feeling uncomfortable doesn't mean you're in trauma. It's just your uncomfortable.

 

And frankly, as long as you're not interfering with the lab, it's OK for there to be tension between you two. People will figure out what's going on. That's fine. Don't be hostile ... but it's OK to look sad, feel sad, feel come discomfort. Just remind yourself that you're doing nothing wrong.

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You don't have to be friendly. You just have to be professional to make sure that the break up doesn't effect your grade. Suck it up for the 2 weeks. Then you can go NC

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preraph Established Member

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Don't be friendly. Just be polite but don't talk about personal stuff at all or encourage that.

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It hurts a lot. I haven't been getting much sleep and everytime I wake up its like oh wow we are broken up.

 

It takes awhile to get used to the change. Just do what you can to get through the 2 weeks. Do you have to see her after that?

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