Broken Man

[Jrugby7]

Last friday my wife decided she needed time to think about what she wants. just a reminder, she had a 2 month A, a few months ago. We have tried MC and IC, helps but she feels like it will never be the same and there will always be something b/t us now. I'm totally confussed, and depressed. My C perscribed Paxil for me but i wont take it, i've heard bad things. We haven't spoke since friday and she emailed me today asking if i had time tonight to talk. I don't know what to do because a big part of me wants to start my life over but just the thought of life without her rips my heart out. I just don't know what to do. How do people get through this?

[Dean3922]

But you don't really have her!! She has some nerve trying to put this on you. She is telling you want she wants; how about you making some demands.

 

my wife decided she needed time to think about what she wants

 

Well bully for her. She thinks you will do what ever she decides and be happy with it. When she calls tell her you will talk to her and be honest with her. Tell her you need time to think about what you want as well.

Sometimes you have to go through some pain to heal and get better.

[CHAZ87]

Your story sounds an awful lot like mine. To the T almost, we are trying to work it out. When I found out, I had nothing but thoughts about moving on and let her do what she thought was right. Then I started to think about her and I and how long we have been together. I don't have the answers how to get through it, all I know it is the most painful ordeal I have ever been in. The thoughts in my head are poison and kill me. AS for the Paxil, I am on a combo of Lorazapam and celexa. I should recomend this if you want to get "even". It has helped me deal with alot of things. One thing is for sure, excercise and work has helped, it has kept my mind from allowing the cancerous thoughts to plague my life.

 

Good Luck

[DesertDweller]

Did you and your wife have the talk? How are things?