lurker74 Posted December 5, 2018 Posted December 5, 2018 Likely not a narcissist. They usually won't be so blatant because they want YOU to think they're special. They will sometimes resort to that type of behavior when they see the end of the relationship coming but not so early on. Next time he says he's special or different, tell him that you don't care that he has a micro-penis. (FTR, having a micro-penis is fine but arrogant guys tend to freak out about this stuff, which is why it might be funny).
Author butwhytho Posted December 5, 2018 Author Posted December 5, 2018 Likely not a narcissist. They usually won't be so blatant because they want YOU to think they're special. They will sometimes resort to that type of behavior when they see the end of the relationship coming but not so early on. Next time he says he's special or different, tell him that you don't care that he has a micro-penis. (FTR, having a micro-penis is fine but arrogant guys tend to freak out about this stuff, which is why it might be funny). Haha, it’s on the big side though... that’s one of the redeeming qualities. But not worth the problematic personality. He’s insecure for some other reason
OnlyHonesty Posted December 6, 2018 Posted December 6, 2018 This sounds like a case of a shallow pot calling the shiny empty kettle black. 1
Highndry Posted December 6, 2018 Posted December 6, 2018 I don't know if he's a Narcissist but he does think highly of himself. That would get on my nerves as well. When are you going to break up with him? :lmao::lmao::lmao: :laugh::laugh::laugh:
Highndry Posted December 6, 2018 Posted December 6, 2018 If you think he may be a narcissist then stay away, they are not people to mess around with. They play manipulative games that can cause lasting damage to others. It is no joke, they are dangerous people to get involved with. Narcissist is a term used too loosely, especially around here. A true narc is no joke - they are dangerous sociopaths.
DrNo1962 Posted December 6, 2018 Posted December 6, 2018 (edited) Narcissist is a term used too loosely, especially around here. A true narc is no joke - they are dangerous sociopaths. The terms gets thrown around way too much. No need to make yourself feel better about someone's ****ty behavior with a fake diagnosis. When someone qualifies themselves to you, they are first and foremost displaying the actions of a needy nice guy / girl. Not a narc. That should be enough to turn someone off. Edited December 6, 2018 by DrNo1962 2
RedHead5 Posted December 7, 2018 Posted December 7, 2018 I've been in your situation kinda. I dated a kinda hot guy for a short period although I knew I could never be with him long term because he was bat **** crazy. Not sure if he was a narc, didn't wait to find out... I ended up just blocking him on everything after the first time he did something that pissed me off lol About 6 months before that I dated an actual narc and for awhile it made me question everybody, including myself. For awhile, I thought I only attracted narcs too. They are dangerous. I consider myself to be very mentally strong but he messed with my head ALOT. Just cut it off before it gets serious. And keep trying. 1
LadyRose Posted December 7, 2018 Posted December 7, 2018 Haha, guys like this are pretty hilarious to mess with. Too little info to determine narcissist but I know plenty of guys like this that are not. Good thing he’s good looking or no one would put up with that for more than a second lol. 1
BitterSweetz Posted December 7, 2018 Posted December 7, 2018 people can be narcissistic in nature without having a mental disorder. Being narcissistic means you think highly of yourself, you have an inflated ego, the selfie fad has high contributions from these individuals. however from what i have learned they do not necessarily have a disorder unless it interferes with their functioning in society. Is he a mooch? a flake? does he talk down about people (especially his ex's)? has he had a tantrum yet? have you caught him in any lies? how are his relationships with other people(parents, family members, kids, friends)? does he accuse any of his ex's for cheating on him? does he have addictions (drugs, food, sex, gambling, alcohol or other substances)? how many jobs has he held for what lengths of time in the last 10 years? make snide or sarcastic remarks? say something degrading then say they are joking? these are some questions to ask, as they are all charismatic, charming, giving, super sweet, and funny at first. There is a huge difference between him being a self absorbed a** and having a personality disorder. there are a lot of GREAT sources on youtube that are practicing licensed therapists that explain it in great detail. Also many books out there too.
BitterSweetz Posted December 7, 2018 Posted December 7, 2018 Also, its best to educate yourself well on the red flag behaviors and patterns before you get involved with anyone. Intermittent reinforcement is what makes you reliant on them, it creates a bond through trauma. best of luck dear.
Tin1987 Posted December 7, 2018 Posted December 7, 2018 He also refers to his friends by what they do, it’s like a status thing for him I think. He won’t just say my friend John, he’ll say my doctor/surgeon/lawyer friend lol. It’s like it inflates his ego to have people of higher status around him. HAhAHAI want that so bad lol
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