butwhytho Posted December 3, 2018 Posted December 3, 2018 This guy I’m dating constantly says he’s “special” and “different “. It’s a big turn off for me. Sounds like a narcissist, what do you guys think?
stillafool Posted December 3, 2018 Posted December 3, 2018 I don't know if he's a Narcissist but he does think highly of himself. That would get on my nerves as well. When are you going to break up with him? 1
Author butwhytho Posted December 3, 2018 Author Posted December 3, 2018 I don't know if he's a Narcissist but he does think highly of himself. That would get on my nerves as well. When are you going to break up with him? He also refers to his friends by what they do, it’s like a status thing for him I think. He won’t just say my friend John, he’ll say my doctor/surgeon/lawyer friend lol. It’s like it inflates his ego to have people of higher status around him. 2
Author butwhytho Posted December 3, 2018 Author Posted December 3, 2018 Depends on the context The context is literally just him stating randomly that he’s special.
SophieG Posted December 3, 2018 Posted December 3, 2018 Special in what way? I might of said that at some point, but it was not in a sense where I'm above everybody else, more like : I can be quite special, or different mentally... like I have my moments of craziness, so I'm just letting you know. It was never in a narcissistic way.
smackie9 Posted December 3, 2018 Posted December 3, 2018 Next time say this in a sarcastic way..."you are special alright". 3
basil67 Posted December 3, 2018 Posted December 3, 2018 Oh, I could have so much fun with a guy like this. Taking the pi** out of someone who big notes themselves is a special treat. Please tell, how do you tease his ego? 1
Author butwhytho Posted December 3, 2018 Author Posted December 3, 2018 Special in what way? I might of said that at some point, but it was not in a sense where I'm above everybody else, more like : I can be quite special, or different mentally... like I have my moments of craziness, so I'm just letting you know. It was never in a narcissistic way. He couldn’t come up with an explanation when I asked what makes him so special. 1
Author butwhytho Posted December 3, 2018 Author Posted December 3, 2018 Oh, I could have so much fun with a guy like this. Taking the pi** out of someone who big notes themselves is a special treat. Please tell, how do you tease his ego? Haha, his only redeeming quality is the physical aspects. Otherwise, his personality is eeeekkk
Wallysbears Posted December 3, 2018 Posted December 3, 2018 Haha, his only redeeming quality is the physical aspects. Otherwise, his personality is eeeekkk Then why are you dating him?
Author butwhytho Posted December 3, 2018 Author Posted December 3, 2018 Then why are you dating him? For the physical aspects lol but thinking of stopping
Gretchen12 Posted December 4, 2018 Posted December 4, 2018 The guy I'm dating also says he's special. Gimme a break! I have to contantly remind him that I am actually the one who is special.
Wallysbears Posted December 4, 2018 Posted December 4, 2018 For the physical aspects lol but thinking of stopping Maybe you two make a good couple then? He thinks he is special and you think the only good part of him is his appearance.
diddilybop Posted December 4, 2018 Posted December 4, 2018 Haha, his only redeeming quality is the physical aspects. Otherwise, his personality is eeeekkk if his personality is "eeeekkk" then maybe that's telling you something.
elaine567 Posted December 4, 2018 Posted December 4, 2018 If you think he may be a narcissist then stay away, they are not people to mess around with. They play manipulative games that can cause lasting damage to others. It is no joke, they are dangerous people to get involved with.
Author butwhytho Posted December 4, 2018 Author Posted December 4, 2018 If you think he may be a narcissist then stay away, they are not people to mess around with. They play manipulative games that can cause lasting damage to others. It is no joke, they are dangerous people to get involved with. Ughh I know I’m always attracting narcs. Need to just move along.
Author butwhytho Posted December 4, 2018 Author Posted December 4, 2018 Maybe you two make a good couple then? He thinks he is special and you think the only good part of him is his appearance. I’m not really attracted to his personality tho. That’s the problem. Orherwise, sexually -things are great. I just don’t think I have the patience to deal with the egocentric baggage
DrNo1962 Posted December 4, 2018 Posted December 4, 2018 This guy I’m dating constantly says he’s “special” and “different “. It’s a big turn off for me. Sounds like a narcissist, what do you guys think? Sounds like the guy is very insecure and is therefore trying to qualify himself to you. This should be a massive turn-off, whether he's a narcissist or not. 1
basil67 Posted December 4, 2018 Posted December 4, 2018 Ughh I know I’m always attracting narcs. Need to just move along. I’m not really attracted to his personality tho. That’s the problem. Orherwise, sexually -things are great. I just don’t think I have the patience to deal with the egocentric baggage Perhaps you end up with narcs because you date men even though you're not attracted to their personality.
Author butwhytho Posted December 4, 2018 Author Posted December 4, 2018 Sounds like the guy is very insecure and is therefore trying to qualify himself to you. This should be a massive turn-off, whether he's a narcissist or not. I agree. I think he’s very insecure and masks it through being egocentric. He also kinda has some unfounded trust issues. He’s so problematic... time to let this one go I think.
chillii Posted December 4, 2018 Posted December 4, 2018 For the physical aspects lol but thinking of stopping Hate to say it then but shallow gets as shallow does so whatdoucare about his personality then ?
Author butwhytho Posted December 4, 2018 Author Posted December 4, 2018 Hate to say it then but shallow gets as shallow does so whatdoucare about his personality then ? I meant physical aspects as in sexual chemistry, not physical appearance. I care about his personality bc that’s something that comes with being around him generally.
Author butwhytho Posted December 4, 2018 Author Posted December 4, 2018 Perhaps you end up with narcs because you date men even though you're not attracted to their personality. It just takes time to get to know someone’s true personality. People tend to hide their true colors in the beginning.
DrNo1962 Posted December 4, 2018 Posted December 4, 2018 I agree. I think he’s very insecure and masks it through being egocentric. He also kinda has some unfounded trust issues. He’s so problematic... time to let this one go I think. Pop the champagne. You're not in too deep here. Next time you'll be better prepared to pick up on these subtle clues so that you can find yourself a secure & centered man.
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