Nisolo Posted December 3, 2018 Posted December 3, 2018 How do I know if my boss has a crush on me, or if he is just being extra nice to me because he feels bad for me? I've had a rough year, so I don't know if he acts this way in order to build my self-esteem back up. My boss is eight years older than me. He is a dentist. I am applying to dental school in a year, hence my reason for working for him. I have worked for dentists since I was 17 years old, so I am unsure if this is just a sort of respect he has for me, or if it's more. I'm pretty sure I am his favorite in the office. He compliments my work a lot. He gives me special projects and makes it known to the other coworkers that he thinks I am doing a good job. One day I was confiding to him about a problematic coworker, and he turned the conversation into a whole thing about how smart and talented he thinks I am. Now he is a VERY personable type of guy, but honestly this felt like he was gushing about me to me. I really don't deserve all the praise he gives me. I cannot tell if he is just trying to build me up because I've had a bad year or what. I got a new pair of sunglasses and the first time I wore them he said I looked pretty in them. But he definitely let the word "pretty" slip, because it was obvious that he felt awkward after he said that. And the other day he said I look really nice in them and he loves them. He mentions a lot how much we have in common. We both have the same favorite music. So at lunch, he came in to the break room to get his lunch and he saw that I was listening to my music and he said I was "his girl." And he was showing me how to use a new dental instrument the other day, and his hand kept touching mine as I was holding it. He tends to laugh a lot at my jokes and will say "I love it" afterwards. Or if I do something extra to help in the office, he tells me that "I'm the best." He also fidgets A LOT when we talk. He just doesn't do these things with my coworkers. He mentioned the other day that he makes sure to interact differently with his workers depending on their personalities, so I don't know if he acts this way with me because he feels bad about some of the things that have happened to me over the year or not... because I've had a frustrating last year. He did tell me that he has respect for me due to the hurdles I've faced in life recently, so maybe that's why he is extra nice to me? And maybe I am misinterpreting it? He never does things like this with my other coworkers, so that is what makes me feel like he may have a crush. My intuition knows something is a little off, but then again, he is very personable as I said earlier. I do hear him compliment patients from time to time, so maybe he just feel comfortable with me because we have similar educational backgrounds and similar interests?
d0nnivain Posted December 3, 2018 Posted December 3, 2018 Unless it's something far more overt I think you are overreading it. He acted awkward over the use of the word pretty because he knew it was borderline in a work place. He probably didn't mean to say it lest you misinterpret it. Unless he escalates, leave it be. Go to dental school
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