Katerina00 Posted December 2, 2018 Posted December 2, 2018 (edited) I've made a post before about my boyfriend being distant whilst I was on holiday.. well, everything was fine and we ended up staying together for another 4 months! However, ever since August I had noticed that his affection had slightly weakened. He assured me that it was just him relaxing into the relationship. So, overall things have been good. About 3 weeks ago, he was acting very quiet and hadn't seen me in 10 days, so I presumed that something was wrong. I asked him if he was still happy and if he wanted to leave me; he said he was happy and that if he wanted to leave, he would. So with that "reassurance" I stopped worrying. We had a good 3 weeks, he saw me regularly (had good sex and fun etc..), then out the blue on thursday this week he texts me saying "Can I come to yours tomorrow, I need to talk to you". Obviously, my heart sank and I knew what would come of this. Upshot, is that he wanted a break or to end it. Now, I didn't want a break if it was a sugar coated way of him saying that he thought our time was done. When he came to see me yesterday, he told me that over the past week he's felt himself distancing from me and he doesn't know what his feelings are. He said maybe time away would let him see what his feelings are. Anyhow, I didn't really agree to the break. The breakup was so confusing, he hugged me the whole time and told me that I've been the best thing to ever happen to him, that it's been the best year of his life, he'll miss me and that he'll find it hard to meet someone else like me?? Wtf? Is he in guilt and he's cheating (which he denies) or is he genuinely confused? He also said he wants to keep contact? This morning he texted me asking how I was? After telling him that he's left me so confused as to what he wants, he said "I don't know exactly what I want, but I thought ending it was healthier"????? I'm not getting my hopes up as that will make my pain worse. I'm going to leave him to his own emotions. We are young, I'm 17, he's just 18. Our relationship was very mature and we'd been together a year. But the ending was abrupt that I don't why he did it? All I can think is that he is confused or that he's cheating?? Any insight? Edited December 2, 2018 by Katerina00 spelling
carhill Posted December 2, 2018 Posted December 2, 2018 IMO, very young, he met someone else, pretty normal. With time he'll learn how to be clearer with communicating. Many other suitors await you. Enjoy!
preraph Posted December 2, 2018 Posted December 2, 2018 At y'all's age, he probably keeps getting attracted to other women. He knows you're a good one, but he's just not ready to settle down, I guess. I'm sorry.
Fekenaws Posted January 4, 2019 Posted January 4, 2019 Trust me, I got full closure from my gf (she was 19 and I was 24) and while it was nice in some respects, it was very painful to hear why she was leaving me. You'll be just as fine going no contact and moving on.
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