AestheticLifestyle Posted December 1, 2018 Posted December 1, 2018 To keep things short and simple, My ex and I were together on and off for 11 months, I wasn't sure if I was ready to commit as I had just gotten out of a nasty relationship. This led to my current ex getting frustrated with me and clingy and we'd drift apart. Then we'd slowly drift back together and start talking again. She'd constantly bring up the past like she was holding grudges against for not wanting to commit and then we'd ultimately drift apart again. On the most recent try, we argued constantly and eventually agreed to end it all together. Couple weeks pass by and I start to realize that I really miss her and want to make things right. I apologized, told her I wanted to do it right this time, etc etc etc.. She was hesitant and felt like I'd only end up breaking her heart again. I gave it a couple weeks and then we eventually had "the talk". She told me she still had feelings for me but wasn't ready for a relationship (we're both in college so we have a lot on our plates). I took this as a sugar coated way of her saying "I don't want to be with you" so I cut it off, told her I didn't think we could be friends right now and that I needed time for myself. (This was on Wednesday of this week). On Thursday, she went to semi formal with a "friend" which apparently, they're more than just friends. Then yesterday, she snapchats me out of the blue. I took several hours to respond and kept the communication to a minimal. I'm confused as to why she's going against my wishes of not talking for a while especially if she's got another guy in her life. Whats going on and what should I do? TL;DR: - On and off with ex for 11 months - Broke it off for good due to arguing and her holding grudges for not committing -Missed her, so I apologized for everything and tried to make things right -Told me she had feels for me still but didn't want a relationship so I cut it off - Made it apparent that she was talking to someone else the next day - Continues to try and contact me
GinON Posted December 1, 2018 Posted December 1, 2018 Well, you might as well take this time to start dating other people too. You are over-committed here, probably to the idea of this relationship and not the person. How can you enjoy going on a date with her if your first thing is negotiating what stage your relationship is in? Just have a nice time, do some fun things and stop worrying if she is dating someone else.
d0nnivain Posted December 2, 2018 Posted December 2, 2018 While an 11 month relationship in college is significant, I assume that included one summer break while you were apart. This relationship was marred by a lot of on again / off again, push / pull dysfunction. Just let this be the last & final break up. It was too difficult over all. Especially in college if it's not easy & fun, don't bother. Disconnect on all social media. Be polite if you pass her on campus but nothing else is required. After all the tries you still failed. Take that as proof you weren't meant to be. Focus on exams right now. Head home for break single. Enjoy your holidays with your family & childhood friends. When you come back to campus for spring semester do so single with a clean slate.
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