geartips Posted December 1, 2018 Posted December 1, 2018 Hello to all I will try to make this short 4 months ago i found a girl which i liked a lot, and we basically fell in love on first sight..She had a boyfriend then, but she immediately told me that she is not happy with him over the years and that instantly when she saw me she wants to break wit him because she really likes me...20 days passed and she broke with him...We hooked up and so on... She was with him for 5 years but they broke few times and then got back together etc.. I talked with her about it and she told me that she never loved him but he was only habit because of so many years behind them.so this was relief to her. When months passed by i saw that she has nasty habit that when she is hurt or something in our relationship she wants to threaten me how her ex bf loved her more then i love her how he was nicer how he was more supportive and so on..and she is doing this often.. today we had a argument, because i told her i don't want to hear her talk about her exes and how many times she slept with them etc and she told me ok, but again this night she did it... I was angry and i didn't want to talk with her and told her that she did it again and i don't know what to do..she was panicking and she called her ex BF on phone and on Viber to ask and complain how she is not felling well in relationship and how i am bad with her... I immediately left her and she claims now that it is my fault blah blah.. What do you think i should do and how should i react? THis is only sufrace, she always threatens how she will hurt herself because she is madly in love with me, and how her ex bf loved her more then i do so she thinks destiny is maybe with him although she doesn't love him at all and she says she will do that only to hurt me and be hurt forever...
snowboy91 Posted December 1, 2018 Posted December 1, 2018 Being constantly compared to ex partners isn't going to make you feel comfortable. I'd be highly concerned that this came out so early in the relationship. You're not responsible for how she feels - you're responsible for putting yourself first. She's only going to cause you more drama, so don't contact her. And if she keeps saying it's your fault, kindly remind her that people in a relationship don't rate their partner against their exes...
basil67 Posted December 1, 2018 Posted December 1, 2018 What do I think and how should you react? Think that you've done the right thing dumping her. You react by blocking her from contacting you.
bathtub-row Posted December 1, 2018 Posted December 1, 2018 She sounds like a very mixed up drama queen. Do you really want this kind of nonsense in your life? Given how she acts, she probably did the same thing to every guy she’s ever been with and she’ll keep doing it. You do realize that this type of behavior is beyond just immature, right? I mean, there’s something wrong with a person who acts the way she does.
anika99 Posted December 2, 2018 Posted December 2, 2018 Hello to all I will try to make this short 4 months ago i found a girl which i liked a lot, and we basically fell in love on first sight..She had a boyfriend then, but she immediately told me that she is not happy with him over the years and that instantly when she saw me she wants to break wit him because she really likes me...20 days passed and she broke with him...We hooked up and so on... She was with him for 5 years but they broke few times and then got back together etc.. I talked with her about it and she told me that she never loved him but he was only habit because of so many years behind them.so this was relief to her. When months passed by i saw that she has nasty habit that when she is hurt or something in our relationship she wants to threaten me how her ex bf loved her more then i love her how he was nicer how he was more supportive and so on..and she is doing this often.. today we had a argument, because i told her i don't want to hear her talk about her exes and how many times she slept with them etc and she told me ok, but again this night she did it... I was angry and i didn't want to talk with her and told her that she did it again and i don't know what to do..she was panicking and she called her ex BF on phone and on Viber to ask and complain how she is not felling well in relationship and how i am bad with her... I immediately left her and she claims now that it is my fault blah blah.. What do you think i should do and how should i react? THis is only sufrace, she always threatens how she will hurt herself because she is madly in love with me, and how her ex bf loved her more then i do so she thinks destiny is maybe with him although she doesn't love him at all and she says she will do that only to hurt me and be hurt forever... Ummm, you only met her 4 months ago and she cheated on her boyfriend so that should be all you need to know. She isn't madly in love with you, nor do you love her. It takes longer than 4 months to really know someone well enough to know if you love them or not. But this girl isn't doing a very good job of hiding her nasty side, because in just 4 months you have learned that she is a cheating manipulative monster who thinks its fine to hurt people who she claims to care about in order to get what she wants. She is using her ex to manipulate you and she is using you to manipulate her ex. I bet she blames him for her cheating and leaving him. She probably tells him the same crap she tells you. When she dumped him he probably heard all about her new guy (you) who is just sooooo much better than him. Bot now when she doesn't get her way with you she runs to the ex to complain and now you're the bad guy. Hopefully she winds up with neither one of you because she needs to mature and sounds like she's one of those ones who have to learn life's lessons the hard way.
d0nnivain Posted December 2, 2018 Posted December 2, 2018 This is far too much drama & nonsense for such a short relationship. Next time she tells you that her EX loved her more, agree with her, then prove it by dumping her.
Garcon1986 Posted December 2, 2018 Posted December 2, 2018 Compelling your significant other to do what you want via threats is never a healthy thing to do.
Despr8 Posted December 3, 2018 Posted December 3, 2018 (edited) Dont bother sounds like a relationship jumper to me. Girls like that have low self esteem and always looking for someone to fill that empty hole of a heart.I've had a few of them and they usually end up screwing themselves out of something meaningful and are always cheating. I remember one I dated ended up getting pregnant a few weeks after we split. Thank god I dodge that bullet. I like to always think the grass isn't always greener on the the side but only where you water it. I'll bet you any money she has a few dudes she's cheated with in the past. Dont wanna burst your bubble but what girl leaves her man of 5 years and jumps into another relationship? I say run away from this one. Edited December 3, 2018 by Despr8
diddilybop Posted December 3, 2018 Posted December 3, 2018 yikes, she sounds TOXIC. block her and move on, you don't need this unnecessary drama. plus, do you really want all this BS at the start of a relationship? no thank you.
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