smx02 Posted December 1, 2018 Posted December 1, 2018 Although I am in my 20s, I am inexperienced in relationships and so is my ex. We were together for about over a year but we spoke before this once in a while the year prior. He cut contact with me once. I told him "ok" and went about my life. 2 months later I heard back from him. We had issues with communication, and I once threatened a break up. I didnt mean it. I just didnt know what to do, I couldnt get through to him. (I know this was so bad.) He was near done with me. I didn't give him space, I told him I would never do that again and I made efforts to change. He was hesitant to open up but he told me that I broke his heart when I did this. A few days ago, I became so overwhelmingly frustrated with him that I said I was done. That was the straw that broke the camels back. He said that he was done, and he was over it. This was over text, because he moved back 1.5 hours away recently. I didnt what I shouldnt have and I blew up his phone. I let him be, then I texted him 2 days after the ordeal. I asked calmly if we could meet up. Not to reconcile, or discuss anything. It just felt ****ty ending a relationship over text. He declined. I said how I thought he would be calm by now, and he said he was calm when he told me he was done. He said that he doesn't want to plan to see me. If we cross paths then we cross paths. He said that I have done this before and he is done. That I give him anxiety and that he doesn't care whether I will change or not because he doesn't want a relationship with me. He said that he tried and he chased after me for long but now he is done. So. I let him be. I'm not going to contact him. I am going to work on my issue so that I don't do this again. But it just destroys me not knowing what is going to happen. He is big on space, and he won't hear from me so he will get space. The other aspects of our relationship were good.. We just spoke a different language sometimes and that was frustrating to me. Do you guys think he will contact me after a period of no contact? Will he ever ask me to meet up? He comes around my area sometimes, because his family and friends live near me. He still has some things at my place, maybe he doesn't find them important. I don't think he was checked out before Wednesday either, so I dont feel like he has calmed down. I know noone knows what is going to happen but I feel like there might be some facts to this that can be telling...
basil67 Posted December 1, 2018 Posted December 1, 2018 Sorry, I can't see any reason for him to contact you again. Seems like the relationship ended for good reason.
Zahara Posted December 1, 2018 Posted December 1, 2018 Regardless of whether he’s calm or not, it sounds like he’s reached his limit. Throwing out the break up card can get old and exhausting really fast. After awhile it just becomes a huge turnoff. Who knows if he’ll resurface — but based on your post, it does seem like he’s done. Leave him alone, stay NC and focus on yourself.
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