zoey15 Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 The other night I was chilling w/ my MM and while I was in the restroom he was snooping through my cell phone. I didn't know this until after he was gone and the reason I know is because as soon as I came out, I saw the light on my cell on. I looked at the clock to mark the time, well after he left no one had called at 9:09. He's tried looking through my phone in front of me before, joking but didn't cause I took the phone from him. Anyway, he asked me yesterday if he needed to sleep a little more would I let him sleep at my place while I'm at work (he was fighting w/ his lady all night). I told him of course I would, but then started thinking about how he was snooping through my phone. Does anyone think he might go through my stuff? Why is he snooping in the first place. I'm not his to even do this with. I would never go through his ****, especially because he's already taken.
Merin Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 I would never go through his ****, especially because he's already taken. That just struck me as funny... you would NEVER go through his personal things since he's already taken, BUT you WILL sleep with him:confused: Anyway... Why would he go through your things... well it seems to me usually when people hide things themselves and are sneaky then they just assume EVERYONE is that way so they get paranoid.
bluechocolate Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 Anyway... Why would he go through your things... well it seems to me usually when people hide things themselves and are sneaky then they just assume EVERYONE is that way so they get paranoid. I was thinking the same thing - that and perhaps he's getting pointers from the wife.
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 It sounds ludicrous, but just because the guy is married doesn't mean he won't be jealous and possessive of you (even though he has NO right to do so). Perhaps he feels he is losing his grip on his 'regular life' and this is a blind effort to exert some sort of control that he can't find an outlet for anywhere else. Do I think he will snoop through anything else? Sure he will. You'll have to find a way to talk to him about this. You have to start somewhere - can you password lock your phone? That should send a subtle message next time he tries to look through it.
Author zoey15 Posted September 13, 2005 Author Posted September 13, 2005 I don't have anything to hide from this man. I just didn't like the fact that he was doing it. I'm involved w/ a LDR, so he knows I have someone as well. I've even talked to my LD guy on the phone while MM was there. Anyway, I just hate snoopers!
Art_Critic Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 Your whole relationship is based on deceit and dishonesty and mistrust. Him snooping is par for the coarse. If you want to complain about somone snooping then date a single unattached guy.
Skeered Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 Your whole relationship is based on deceit and dishonesty and mistrust. Him snooping is par for the coarse. If you want to complain about somone snooping then date a single unattached guy. EXACTLY..couldn't have said that better myself. You are cheating on your LDR and he's cheating on his wife...sounds like a match made in heaven. NOT!! Neither of you can trust eachother really because as was said your entire "relationship" is based on big lies...congratulations.
Author zoey15 Posted September 13, 2005 Author Posted September 13, 2005 You are all right, this is based on lies and deciet. Trust would never be apart of this relationship (or whatever this is)! Thx for the replies! I will just take it for what it is & let him get his thrills w/ reading the text messages I get from other people. Like I said earlier I have nothing to hide, he knows what's up w/ my LDR so whatever..............Snoops still suck!!!!!!!
Art_Critic Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 You are all right, this is based on lies and deciet. Trust would never be apart of this relationship (or whatever this is)! Thx for the replies! I will just take it for what it is & let him get his thrills w/ reading the text messages I get from other people. Like I said earlier I have nothing to hide, he knows what's up w/ my LDR so whatever..............Snoops still suck!!!!!!! I have to say that you are one of the few OW I've ever seen that didn't get defensive when you heard the LS advice.. You sound like you at least have your eyes wide open while you are walking thru the door.. goodluck
Author zoey15 Posted September 13, 2005 Author Posted September 13, 2005 I have to say that you are one of the few OW I've ever seen that didn't get defensive when you heard the LS advice.. It's because I know this is bad, and I know I should'nt be messing around w/ this guy. It's like I'm using him until I don't need him anymore. I know this is an all around bad situation and he knows it too. Any woman/man that would get offended for being in a situation like this and not know they are in the wrong, would be in denial. I was just on all you "good" peoples side five months ago. If someone would've told me my situation 5 months ago. I would've called them trifling skezzers. So yup I'm calling myself that & him! But still, we can't leave each other alone. Just yesterday I got a call from a woman who called and asked for a name that sounded like mine. I really didn't think nothing of it, I just said she had the wrong number. Well it was the W. She knows about me, but she really doesn't know. She has no details & I'm sure he lies like crazy to her. I've even seen the W once. I was out w/ MM and she showed up telling him ****, then asked me if I was seeing him. I straight up lied to her face. I'm a bad person! I need to go to confession!!!!!! I'm for real too, I'm not making that comment as a joke!
EndoftheRope Posted September 16, 2005 Posted September 16, 2005 I really didn't think nothing of it, I just said she had the wrong number. Well it was the W. She knows about me, but she really doesn't know. She has no details & I'm sure he lies like crazy to her. I've even seen the W once. I was out w/ MM and she showed up telling him ****, then asked me if I was seeing him. I straight up lied to her face. He lies to his W, you lie to your LDR, you lie to his W... it's no wonder he expects you to lie to him, too. I ask in all sincerity, not trying to be cruel... what does it do to you inside to live like this? To talk about this w 'telling him ****' as if she is the evil one here, lying to her and apparently(?) thinking nothing of it? Do you have any idea what it feels like to be that woman? To have a pretty good idea the man who is supposed to love, honor, and cherish her is cheating on her and to have everyone lying to her on top of it, so that she is half crazy with trying to sort truth from lies? So that she begins to doubt her intellect, her intuition, her very sanity? It's like being blindfolded, handcuffed, and locked in a cage that's slowly sinking underwater. It's the worst feeling in the world. And then you, the person helping cause that pain, top it off by criticizing her for crying out? Please don't be part of that. Please at the very least break it off with him and don't be part of hurting another person like that. If she asks you, please tell her the truth. She probably already knows, and you're only making it worse for your own dignity and for her, by lying.
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