When your e girlfriend says to you find another girl, does she mean it?

[Udyr8720]

Do you girls really mean it when you say your ex who wants to get back: go find another woman who makes you happy?

 

context: things goes like this: she broke up because I wasn’t being romantic, we had a long distance relationship, I saw her every weekend tho, maintained no contact for two months, and now I looked for her she doesn’t wanna be in a relationship

 

when I talked with her on the phone she said to me I was confusing her because she tough I i’ll Never look for her, and she didn’t want to get back or seeing me

 

i manage to saw her, we hugged like for a minute I kiss her on the cheek and I noticed her voice broke a little when I asked how she was, in that time we didn’t talked about getting back, only how we were in the time we didn’t saw each other, the only thing I did was giving her a list of the things I will change, we say good bye and we hugged again like 3 times. Before I leave I said to her I wanted to kiss her but I will not do it against her will,

later in the night she texted me saying that she was happy to see me but she is happy right now and she don’t wanna get in to a relationship right now, basically she doesn’t wants all the troubles of worrys, cares that a relationship needs.

 

There she puts wish you the best and i hope you find your girl.

 

what do you girls think?

could be this momentary?

she stills want me but afraid?

do you think things could work once I get back to live in the city?

should I wait?

sjould I move on?

[PRW]

Do you girls really mean it when you say your ex who wants to get back: go find another woman who makes you happy?

Obey your ex and go find another.

[preraph]

Yes, she means it. She knows if you meet another girl, then she won't have this pressure and guilt from you. I'm sure she feels empathy for you and that's why she teared up. Women have empathy and don't like to hurt people mostly. But she's done and wants you to move on and leave her alone. She isn't even remotely interested in getting back together with you. Sorry. I know that's not what you want to hear. Persistence doesn't work like in some of the movies.

[basil67]

I interpret the expression "find a girl who makes you happy" as a dig. I'd use that expression if a guy complained too much about my behaviour or wanted me to change.

[Udyr8720]

Yes, she means it. She knows if you meet another girl, then she won't have this pressure and guilt from you. I'm sure she feels empathy for you and that's why she teared up. Women have empathy and don't like to hurt people mostly. But she's done and wants you to move on and leave her alone. She isn't even remotely interested in getting back together with you. Sorry. I know that's not what you want to hear. Persistence doesn't work like in some of the movies.

 

 

Yeah I know when we hugged I just felt there was a small chance but I guess she couldn’t tell me at the moment, emotions, little doubt you name it, she then later cleared me things, she already made a decision.

[Udyr8720]

I interpret the expression "find a girl who makes you happy" as a dig. I'd use that expression if a guy complained too much about my behaviour or wanted me to change.

 

Actually never wanted to change anything about her she always was telling me, almost suggesting me that maybe because of my lack of romanticism I should find a woman who doesn’t care that, I don’t consider myself zero romantic, but I can give her some reason.

[d0nnivain]

You should move on.

 

You were not romantic enough for her during the relationship. She broke things off because she wasn't getting what she wanted or needed out of the relationship. She had written you off as a Cretan who would never even understand what you did. After 2+ months you surprisingly did come back asking for a 2nd chance. She does not believe for a NY Minute that you have genuinely changed or are capable of fulfilling her needs in a relationship which is why she is unwilling to try but her bruised ego has been soothed because you did come begging. Especially since you remain "zero romantic" you can't give her what she wants

 

She's moved on. It's best that you heed her advice & do so too. Go find another girl.