troubledguy Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 Hi, I was just wandering if anyone had any advice with me, or could teach me how to cope, or agree/disagree with me. Basically I just need to vent and talk about this and was wondering if I am unique in my feelings. My girlfriend just started playing rugby. We both just started colege and she decided she was either going to join a sorority or the women's rugby team. I can't help viewing her choice as the lesser of two evils. I'm glad that she found something that she likes and that she fits in and is happy. Unfortunately, I also feel really turned off and worried by the whole thing. It makes me sick (it literally makes me queasy in my stomach...lol) to think about her wanting to tackle people, and tackling people and getting tackled. I mean, I was going to get her a nice dress, but now she's asking me if I would get her cleats and a mouthguard instead. Maybe I'm being too irrational, but I can't stop thinking about her developing into a hulk, or breaking her leg or loosing a tooth. (She is small, about 5'3, 120lbs.) The first thing she said to me after her first practice was "I'm bleeding and I need an ice pack for my arm." I want to support her and be happy for her, but at the same time I wish she didn't want to do this. Any guys gone through this with their girl or something like it? Girls, any advice?
Merin Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 Hmmm... sounds to me that you're upset that your GF isn't as "Girly" as you would like her to be or think she should be:confused: While I'm sure you also have concerns for her well being and not getting hurt... I guess I don't get what the problem is... she is engaging in a sport that she enjoys... My advice is to support her here... go to her games, get the ice pack if or when she needs it and be mo thankful she doesn't want to engage in say... naked under water basket weaving
JS17 Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 be mo thankful she doesn't want to engage in say... naked under water basket weaving :lmao:
RainyDayWoman Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 :lmao: i think it's great and you should lay off. think of it this way....if you want to start taking ballet or knitting, she can't freak out. relax. this is her thing, and she likes it. i think she sounds like a cool chick. or you can tell her to stop playing, and she will tell you where you can go...or she'll say okay, i'll stop playing, and then you'll feel guilty and she will resent you and be miserable everytime you're together. think about it.
bluechocolate Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 Are you sure you're not just worried that she's going to end up being stronger than you?
TUDOR Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 I dated a girl that played in a rugby league and I'm not sure I see what the problem is. She she would go get down and dirty and get some scrapes and bruises but the dirt washes off and she can still put on that dress for you and be girly like Merin said. If you care about her than you need to be supportive of her choices and stop with the me, me, me. It can make for some fun wrestling at home and more agressive sex!! Stop looking at the down sides you see and start looking at the positives that can come from it!
elijahBailey Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 wow! never heard of a women's rugby team. Where ya from? and I'll tell ya, I'll definitely pay to watch women's football if there's one The closest thing we have is women's wrestling. Talk about over-built bods. Maybe she's building herself up so she can dominate you in bed. Some guys actually love it
troubledboy Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 Hmmm... sounds to me that you're upset that your GF isn't as "Girly" as you would like her to be or think she should be:confused: While I'm sure you also have concerns for her well being and not getting hurt... yeah, merin, i think you hit it right on. i just feel as though this is the latest in a string of things that bother me.....her wearing baggy clothes/dressing like a boy, cutting her hair really short....then combining the two so that i look like i'm walking around with a short black boy sometimes. i just wish she was more girly and I guess I'll just cope with it, coz I got over the first two and actually liked them after the initial shock. but i'm confused when she does this stuff, but then asks me to play a more dominant role and be more controlling. i am just plain confused. but thanks, now i know where this is really all stemming from. obviously, now i need even more advice. thanks to everyone, though. i have more faith that i can get over this and learn to appreciate it. will i find it sexy, tho?....doubtful
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