Brokster Posted November 29, 2018 Posted November 29, 2018 Hey, all. For whoever is listening to my ramblings thanks for reading this. The point of this was to point out sort of a hindrance i've found in my dating life. I'm fifteen (freshman in high school) and I have finally found someone who doesn't think I'm a total loser baby. I'll call her Chloe for privacy. Chloe and I have been close friends for a few years and about a month ago I decided to tell her how I felt. It turns out she felt the same and now we're dating. It has been going great so far. Nothing has really "happened" yet which doesn't really matter, but a few days ago Chloe told me "It is impossible to make me uncomfortable." Chloe is kind of a "horn-dog" as it were and so as like a kind of game I tried telling her every embarrassing thing about me and nothing made her uncomfortable. The problem started when she told me to take a BDSM test. For those who don't know BDSM tests are psychological tests to see what kind of kinks you have. So I took the test and me and Chloe both have very similar test results. This, however, is terrible. Since we're both generally submissive people we're sort of sexually incompatible. And before someone goes on saying "You're fifteen. You're probably not going to have sex for a while." Sexual nature doesn't just impact sex, it impacts everything surrounding sex as well whether it be having a conversation, or cuddling, or deciding whether or not I should make a move to kiss her (all real life examples.) Chloe is such an amazing person and she's really considerate and smart and all that junk, but she is also my first girlfriend. As a result I KNOW NOTHING ABOUT ANYTHING. Since Love Shack helped me last time with a dilemma about a year ago (thank you to whoever decided to give me advice on that by the way, and no it went really ugly) so I decided to turn back here. All my friends have never been in a relationship and I will absolutely not tell my parents. My question is what do I do now?
Wallysbears Posted November 29, 2018 Posted November 29, 2018 Sunshine - you’re 15. Get off the internet and go live life
bathtub-row Posted November 29, 2018 Posted November 29, 2018 You’re basing your compatibility on a test? I think the two of you need to figure that out on your own.
d0nnivain Posted November 29, 2018 Posted November 29, 2018 That "test" was not designed as a true psychological analysis. It was probably something your teenaged GF found on the internet. It doesn't mean much. Who you are at 15 is not who you will be at 18 or 21 or 25. Calm down. You can take the same test next year & the results may be different At 15 you shouldn't even know what BDSM is. You should be focused on whether you will get to 2nd base. Slow down. Enjoy the moment. Stop trying to predict the future beyond what grade you might expect on your midterm.
khalessi Posted November 29, 2018 Posted November 29, 2018 That "test" was not designed as a true psychological analysis. It was probably something your teenaged GF found on the internet. It doesn't mean much. Who you are at 15 is not who you will be at 18 or 21 or 25. Calm down. You can take the same test next year & the results may be different At 15 you shouldn't even know what BDSM is. You should be focused on whether you will get to 2nd base. Slow down. Enjoy the moment. Stop trying to predict the future beyond what grade you might expect on your midterm. Agree with everyone a test will not work out...
Simple Logic Posted November 29, 2018 Posted November 29, 2018 May I suggest you quit over analyzing everything?
smackie9 Posted November 29, 2018 Posted November 29, 2018 Just do what feels natural....and stop believing in those stupid tests. Just have fun exploring, getting experience...
Sunlight72 Posted November 30, 2018 Posted November 30, 2018 Yeup. I agree with other replies. You are both humans [i know, I know... I'm making a lot of assumptions here ;-) ]. Humans can 'have fun' like no other species can. Job one - have fun together. Would you like a real, applicable test? OK... Is it easy and natural for you and Chloe to enjoy each other? Yes? Good. Then don't find a made up reason to imagine it is difficult.
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