Ended a FWB Relationship?

[findmyway7]

I met a guy 5 months ago on a dating app, we went out and hit it off. From the very first date we agreed that we didn't want anything serious, which I was ok with. We started sleeping together (2-3 sleepovers a week), had at least one date night over the weekend, communicated via text everyday and talked on the phone 2 - 3 times a week. We had a couple rules, 1. If we hookup with someone else then we tell each other and end it, 2. If we go on dates with other people we tell each other.

 

2 months in he said he got off the dating apps because he was really happy with me. At the 3 month mark I began to notice he got distant. One night he called me and asked if he could come over around midnight, I said sure. When he got over I asked him if he was on a date, his response "Don't be crazy, if I was on a date I would've told you". I didn't really believe him but what am I going to badger him about this. So we continued to date. He picked me up from the airport, went on dates, and celebrated mini success that were happening in both of our lives and continued to have fun - he was still acting a little distant. He was saying "I'm so happy, we are getting serious", you're amazing"

 

Two weeks after he picked me up from the airport, we had a date night - that I planned. He called me early that morning saying "im really excited about tonight, and I am going to a boozy brunch with friends but don't worry I'm not drinking" He showed up at mine pretty drunk around 7PM - which I thought was so disrespectful and so out of character, especially because I told him it was a big night and don't get too crazy. I asked him who he was with, he said "don't worry friends you dont know". Obviously I felt something was off and was going to have a conversation with him about this at a later time.

 

I messaged him on monday and he ghosted me until Friday when I got the dreaded text "Hey Stranger, what are you up to this weekend?". I didn't respond F that.

 

Monday he messaged me again, "Is everything ok?". I responded with "Let's get dinner and catchup".

 

At this point I had heard from a friend that they saw him with another girl, one who he dated before me. The girl he was seen with dated him for a month, gave him and STD and ghosted him. So I didn't think that she would be a threat at all.

 

Anyways, we get dinner, he acts like everything is fine, so I asked him what was going on and that I felt like he was being shady... He went into the whole "I've been busy" **** and then I asked him if he has hooked up with anyone else. And then everything came out.

 

1. He hooked up with the girl that gave him an std and ghosted him - the week that he ghosted me

2. He was on a date with a different girl the night he came to mine and I asked him and he lied to my face.

 

 

So I then asked "Are you still talking to the girl (std girl)?"

He said "yes, I am trying to figure it out with her"

I said "what's there to figure out, she ghosted you and gave you an STD"

 

 

he then told me, she wants to cool off on the hooking up with me for now until he figures things out with the girl and just be friends for now. AKA: He told me he wanted to back burner me - how ****ing stupid. He said he doesn't want to date anyone, and doesn't want to feel bad if he goes on dates with other girls. I said do you feel bad that you went or that you lied about it?

 

I said "I don't have liars in my life"

 

He said "We clearly were on different pages",

 

I said "No we weren't you just are a ****ing liar and lied to me"

 

So we ended it and havent spoken for exactly a month. 4 days later he was on vacation with her. Obviously, I was dying on the inside - crushed.

 

AKA: He seems to be dating her

 

 

Where I am now:

 

1. We haven't spoken since the ending (30 days)

2. He still checks all my stories on social media

3. All the sudden he now posts on social media (like what...?)

4. I was so hurt by the way this ended and still am

 

I could never trust this person again but it would feel good if they came back.

 

What are your thoughts on this? Will I ever hear from this guy again?

Edited November 27, 2018 by findmyway7

[PRW]

FWB by definition is not a relationship, so there is nothing to break up from. FWB is what people do when they don't want a relationship,...they want the milk without buying the cow.

 

Make up your mind where you want your life to go and what your goals are supposed to be. Make your life style match that so that you are working toward where you want to go. There is no future in FWB situations,...by design,...on purpose.

[frigginlost]

That's a hell of a lot of emotion for someone in a FWB situation.

 

Honestly, what did you expect? Simply put, you got beat at your own game. He held true to FWB and you did not.

 

As the previous poster stated, decide what it is you're looking for and stick to it.

 

You might hear from him again when he's looking to get his d*ck wet. It's up to you if you're gonna fall for it. Based on your emotion, I'd say you will...