How to ask him to hang out

[Cyeraah]

Okay so me and my ex boyfriend been together for about a year. We broke up in April (because he was loosing feeling) then got back together maybe 2 weeks later. We been together ever since until just Wednesday. He broke up with me:(. He was acting distance days before, so Wednesday, he told me that he has been loosing feeling for me. I asked him "do you not want to be with me anymore or do you want your space" he said he just wanted some space. I was still very confused and lost because he wasn't saying much about why he been loosing feelings. So, 2 days ago he finally told me. He said that we had been going distant lately (i disagree btw), and that he dont find his self thinking about me the way he use to. He told me that we wasn't seeing each other much and that we wouldn't be able to because of his job (his job requires him to be away from home.. days and maybe weeks at a time). He told me that i was a great girl and that he wanted me to be with someone that I will actually be seeing. So basically he left me because we wouldnt be seeing each other much and that he wasnt feeling it anymore. Which i feel like its my fault because I had got a 2nd shift job. He gets off work at 5pm and 5pm is when im suppose to be at work. So we wasnt seeing each other alot. I thought we would figure it out so i didnt pay much attention to the situation. Until now of course. I feel like work got in the way of our relationship. Im in love with him and want to figure it out. But i dont want to pressure him about it. So I want to ask him to hang out this weekend. Hanging out again is the only way for us to reconnect and try to figure things out. I'm scared he might not want to see me or might say no. I don't know how to ask. Or if i should even ask... I'm 20 btw and he's 22

[basil67]

I'm sorry Cyeraah, it's time to let him go. This is the second time he's broken up with you this year. The reasons he gave have merit, but there would also be an element of him simply not feeling it anymore.

 

Time to create distance on your own side too.

[Senorheartbreak]

Dont ask him to hang out. He doesnt want to be around you, i understand thats hard to fathom when you love someone because you can't imagine them not being the person they once were towards you. But by asking him to hang out, you are just stroking his ego by being the chaser. It pushes him further away and the answer will likely be no.

 

Become scarce. Start creating a bit of distance and do things you enjoy and hang out with your friends. Let him come to you if he really wants you and wants things to work out.

 

If ive learned anything its that you cant persuade/force anyone to be in a relationship they dont want to be in, but you can make them miss you. He cant miss you if you are chasing him. Even if he did come back after you chased him it probably wont last. Let him make the choice to sort it out.

[d0nnivain]

Break up make up cycles are dysfunctional. You tried twice & didn't work because he lost feelings. He doesn't care about you as much as you care about him. He's running for daylight. Asking him to hang out will only prolong your agony because he is not invested.