He's interested but doesn't ask me out

[ayeshau]

I started working at a job a month ago and developed a crush on a coworker who's worked there longer than me. He's a reserved guy who is borderline shy, very friendly and really never once hit on me. His friends (our cowoerkers) who have also worked there before i started were pretty aggressive in terms of hitting on me, I wasnt interested and declined but I know guys talk and theyre his friends so i made sure i let them know i'm single but that i just want to be friends. I started talking to him finally, he's walked me home from work a few times now, he has my number and texts me, he's told me he thinks i'm beautiful but doesnt feel the need to say it because he thinks i'm told enough and he doesnt hit on me so forwardly as he doesnt see the point in being like the rest because he can tell im used to faster moving guys who are more direct. He also admitted he's interested in something potentially. However, he hasn't asked me out, he works part time so I only see him a couple times a week and at work we don't get much time to talk, its awkward cause our office is small and people talk, and he isnt the type to text me everyday, I can really see he moves slow and wants to really make sure he's serious about someone, which is a great thing I am very used to guys getting to the point or wanting to get to know me better faster but he moves like a glacier. I try to be pretty forward and transparent about my interest towards him but I'm not sure if i should just slow down and be friends with him for a while and stay at his pace or if i should give him a nudge and try to see where his head is at

[MrPants]

Ask the guy out! Its super flattering

[d0nnivain]

You said it yourself he's shy. He may wisely have a thing against dating co-workers. In the environment where you work, where the others don't appear to have good boundaries, he may be doubly concerned about starting something with you & having the whole work place all up in your business. It has only been a month since you met; some guys move slowly.

 

 

If you are brave enough ask him out but do understand the dangers of dating in the work place. If he says no or you break up, how will you handle the awkwardness?

[smackie9]

Here's what you can try....talk about a movie that you would like to see but have no one to go with, or mention a little cafe you heard good things about and wouldn't mine going there for lunch....hint hint hint.

[TheRainbow]

Ask if he wants to go out for lunch or go to a movie. If he's shy, it's very likely he has a fear of rejection. So make the first move.