vgee96 Posted November 26, 2018 Posted November 26, 2018 So a fwb friend with benefits) of several months got annoyed with me as he said he has asked me to go on a date with him 3 times and I had just opened and ignored his messages. He then said he never wanted just sex but had never told me this. I never received any messages like this nor has he ever hinted at the fact he wanted more, he always just messaged me to come round. I didn’t believe he had sent the messages asking me out as I’m sure I would have received them so when I said I didn’t believe him he deleted me from everything and said he doesn’t see the point in continuing something with someone who doesn’t trust him, he now wants nothing to do with me and I’m sad as I did like the guy, he deleted me from everything and I’m very confused.
PRW Posted November 26, 2018 Posted November 26, 2018 He is just the typical Beta Male Orbiter that just manage to find a way to get laid. Most do not. You can google the term "Beta Male Orbiter". Now he is acting like a butt-hurt little girl,...which is also typical of that type of guy. This is often how these come to an end,...even if there was no sex involved. The sex just makes it more volatile when it finally explodes. 1
stillafool Posted November 26, 2018 Posted November 26, 2018 If he's a FWB that means you've already had sex. Now he has found a new FWB and is lying to you about the 3 dates he asked you on as an excuse to end your FWB relationship. Block him and move on. 1
smackie9 Posted November 26, 2018 Posted November 26, 2018 I'm gonna go with "Who's being a butt hurt little girl" for 500 Alex! lol 1
Author vgee96 Posted November 26, 2018 Author Posted November 26, 2018 I'm gonna go with "Who's being a butt hurt little girl" for 500 Alex! lol Somebody who I liked and enjoyed spending time with completely cut me out of their life, of course I’m going to be a bit hurt
Author vgee96 Posted November 26, 2018 Author Posted November 26, 2018 If he's a FWB that means you've already had sex. Now he has found a new FWB and is lying to you about the 3 dates he asked you on as an excuse to end your FWB relationship. Block him and move on. Well I did say I didn’t believe him and that’s when he kicked off:laugh:
hippychick3 Posted November 27, 2018 Posted November 27, 2018 Somebody who I liked and enjoyed spending time with completely cut me out of their life, of course I’m going to be a bit hurt I believe Smackie was talking about the guy being a butt-hurt little girl, not you. 1
mortensorchid Posted November 27, 2018 Posted November 27, 2018 I've been there with guys like this before - they make you feel guilty or like you're the bad guy when they are trying to shift the blame onto you so that YOU will react badly and they can be the victim. Wimps and cowards is what they are. Just move on.
Author vgee96 Posted November 27, 2018 Author Posted November 27, 2018 I believe Smackie was talking about the guy being a butt-hurt little girl, not you. Oops just read back through the thread and realised that, sorry Smackie!!
Author vgee96 Posted November 27, 2018 Author Posted November 27, 2018 I've been there with guys like this before - they make you feel guilty or like you're the bad guy when they are trying to shift the blame onto you so that YOU will react badly and they can be the victim. Wimps and cowards is what they are. Just move on. Very true and they do a good job of it as well, can’t help feeling like I messed up and should have kept my mouth shut, I didn’t expect him to completely remove me from his life over such a thing
preraph Posted November 27, 2018 Posted November 27, 2018 If you know for a fact he didn't send the messages, then he was just trying to lie his way out of or into something and he got busted. I mean, only you know if you see all your messages or not. If he lied and got busted, then who needs him? If you think he sent the messages and you either didn't see them or intentionally ignored them, then he's had you ignoring him and decided to save his dignity.
PRW Posted November 27, 2018 Posted November 27, 2018 Somebody who I liked and enjoyed spending time with completely cut me out of their life, of course I’m going to be a bit hurt Not you! Him! He's the one acting like that. The "blocking & deleting" stuff.
stillafool Posted November 27, 2018 Posted November 27, 2018 Very true and they do a good job of it as well, can’t help feeling like I messed up and should have kept my mouth shut, I didn’t expect him to completely remove me from his life over such a thing How did you mess up? Why should you keep your mouth shut? He is just a FWB and you should treat him as he's treating you. Wash, rinse and move on.
PRW Posted November 27, 2018 Posted November 27, 2018 Very true and they do a good job of it as well, can’t help feeling like I messed up and should have kept my mouth shut, I didn’t expect him to completely remove me from his life over such a thing You are treating this like he was your BF. That is the folly of FWB, attachment always follows the sex,...FWB beyond a couple of instances over a short time is doomed to having this happen to one or both people. I suspect you always wanted something more substantive with him but you agreed to FWB because that was all you felt you could get him to go along with. Anyway his radical and unreasonable behavor shows you that this whole thing was a mistake and you need to find someone of better quality.
smackie9 Posted November 27, 2018 Posted November 27, 2018 Somebody who I liked and enjoyed spending time with completely cut me out of their life, of course I’m going to be a bit hurt He's the one acting immaturely. Is he really worth it at this point?
kendahke Posted November 27, 2018 Posted November 27, 2018 Wow, that sure was a "take a sledgehammer to kill a gnat" reaction. He couldn't have just called up the texts on his phone and showed you or resent them? I'm trying to figure out why he got all hysterical in his reaction.
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