ExpatInItaly Posted November 28, 2018 Posted November 28, 2018 Though I haven't read the whole thread, I'm not sure why someone hasn't picked up on this. Taking photos of anyone without their consent is disrespectful, taking photos of school age girls is not on. Even if they are 18, taking photos of their legs and uniform is not on. Fantasies, consenting adults is one thing. Photos without consent is going on perverted, if they are minors its downright dark. This. OP, this is not just a fantasy. This man is acting on his desires in a predatory manner, even if the girls he secretly photographs are over 18. I don't think I should even need to explain exactly why this behaviour is despicable. Why was that not an immediate dealbreaker for you? I would have gotten rid of them then and there. 1
RecentChange Posted November 28, 2018 Posted November 28, 2018 I am glad to see the tone has changed after the first few posts. I find this SUPER CREEPY! No way could I be involved with someone like this. I find it disgusting. Sure, everyone can have their fetishes, and I can find them vile. The fact that this older man is a teacher, and has access to these young school girls which he has sexual fantasies about is quite disturbing. Having known real life cases of men like this, men that were teachers, men who had hidden books full of photos of young girls - including their students - I don't shrug my shoulders and think boys will be boys. Well sickos will be sickos as well. If this is what he is so open about, I wonder what he hides. Me? I wouldn't have anything to do with someone like this, but other people have different boundaries I guess.
RecentChange Posted November 28, 2018 Posted November 28, 2018 (edited) The guy is comfortable with you enough to tell you his fantasies. Doesn't this count for something? Granted, it may be... odd and creepy, but as long as he doesn't act on them, I don't see much problems with it. Eh, not really. He found someone that would help him act out what he normally couldn't because its illegal. He has told this much, makes me wonder what he hasn't told. Personally, I am just not down with pedophilia, and that is what this is. Curious OP - do you look young? Do you really want to have a boy friend that leers at young girls, thinks about young girls when he is with you etc? Edited November 28, 2018 by RecentChange
Normm Posted November 28, 2018 Posted November 28, 2018 Asian schoolgirls are hot. Except you have to mute the videos because all they do is cry out in squeaky voices speaking a dialect no one can possibly understand and it's distracting.
RecentChange Posted November 28, 2018 Posted November 28, 2018 Asian schoolgirls are hot. Except you have to mute the videos because all they do is cry out in squeaky voices speaking a dialect no one can possibly understand and it's distracting. Yes, best not be distracted by the fact that they are children, people with voices, someone’s innocent daughter, better to mute it, objectify school children and beat your meat to them. With threads like this, is it any wonder that shockingly high rates of children are molested every year? That it’s some sort of triumph if a woman makes it to adulthood without a man sexually violating her in some way? 1
Normm Posted November 28, 2018 Posted November 28, 2018 With threads like this, is it any wonder that shockingly high rates of children are molested every year? Threads like this don't cause people to be child molesters. 1
jgraham11 Posted November 28, 2018 Posted November 28, 2018 Yes, best not be distracted by the fact that they are children, people with voices, someone’s innocent daughter, better to mute it, objectify school children and beat your meat to them. With threads like this, is it any wonder that shockingly high rates of children are molested every year? That it’s some sort of triumph if a woman makes it to adulthood without a man sexually violating her in some way? I don't think the "industry" if you will in Japan helps matters. It's one of the most common themes you see in those movies. Not to mention if you go to Tokyo there are ACTUAL schoolgirls who for money will spend time with you. VICE did a real long segment on that not too long ago. So it's the culture that breeds that perverted way of thinking
RecentChange Posted November 28, 2018 Posted November 28, 2018 Threads like this don't cause people to be child molesters. No, I was never insinuating that a thread like this would CUASE someone to be a molester. But the attitudes “school children are hot” “boys will be boys”. Plaid skirts and knee socks are sexy - those are attitudes that lead to the victimization of children. I don't think the "industry" if you will in Japan helps matters. It's one of the most common themes you see in those movies. Not to mention if you go to Tokyo there are ACTUAL schoolgirls who for money will spend time with you. VICE did a real long segment on that not too long ago. So it's the culture that breeds that perverted way of thinking Oh most certainly this is a cultural issue. There is nothing intrinsically sexy about knee socks for example, but socially it has been sexualized. Socially we are saying “yes it’s acceptable to sexualize children” “yes it’s acceptable for old men to want to have sex with girls the same age as their grandchildren”. These things are not done because it’s good for young girls, it’s because men still set the stage and they have said this is what they desire, and it is what is being catered to. I wonder.... why did this American move to Japan? Was it to indulge in his fetish? Just like pedophiles like to travel to countries that do not protect their children from sexual tourism? Just because it’s rampant, doesn’t mean it’s moral. 1
Normm Posted November 28, 2018 Posted November 28, 2018 Just because it’s rampant, doesn’t mean it’s moral. Morality is over rated.
jgraham11 Posted November 28, 2018 Posted November 28, 2018 No, I was never insinuating that a thread like this would CUASE someone to be a molester. But the attitudes “school children are hot” “boys will be boys”. Plaid skirts and knee socks are sexy - those are attitudes that lead to the victimization of children. Oh most certainly this is a cultural issue. There is nothing intrinsically sexy about knee socks for example, but socially it has been sexualized. Socially we are saying “yes it’s acceptable to sexualize children” “yes it’s acceptable for old men to want to have sex with girls the same age as their grandchildren”. These things are not done because it’s good for young girls, it’s because men still set the stage and they have said this is what they desire, and it is what is being catered to. I wonder.... why did this American move to Japan? Was it to indulge in his fetish? Just like pedophiles like to travel to countries that do not protect their children from sexual tourism? Just because it’s rampant, doesn’t mean it’s moral. I have to disagree with the stocks statement. It does look good on women, I personally like it, albeit it is a little on the promiscuous side. As far as the culture goes, no offense, but you're starting to sound like a SJW and maybe you are, but that's their culture. We as Americans or westerners can't try to tell how another country handles their culture, that's their business. With that being said I'm not advocating for the objectification of school age girls in those uniforms. It's just one of those things that makes Japan, Japan, one of the negative aspects depending on who you ask I guess after reading this thread.
Author ATPY Posted November 28, 2018 Author Posted November 28, 2018 Hi, I am 40 years old but been consistently been address as a 'girl' by alot of people. Not sure what that means. And right now I am so.confused. Both of us are in role play but this seems to spark off something that is way off. We got so much chemistry together and I am basically crying myself to no end now.
Author ATPY Posted November 28, 2018 Author Posted November 28, 2018 Eh, not really. He found someone that would help him act out what he normally couldn't because its illegal. He has told this much, makes me wonder what he hasn't told. Personally, I am just not down with pedophilia, and that is what this is. Curious OP - do you look young? Do you really want to have a boy friend that leers at young girls, thinks about young girls when he is with you etc? Hi, I am 40 years old but been consistently been address as a 'girl' by alot of people. Not sure what that means. And right now I am so.confused. Both of us are in role play but this seems to spark off something that is way off. We got so much chemistry together and I am basically crying myself to no end now.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 28, 2018 Posted November 28, 2018 (edited) Hi, I am 40 years old but been consistently been address as a 'girl' by alot of people. Not sure what that means. And right now I am so.confused. Both of us are in role play but this seems to spark off something that is way off. We got so much chemistry together and I am basically crying myself to no end now. The person you have "chemistry" with secretly takes photos of girls/women. []There are better fish in the sea; go and find one. Edited November 28, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Topical content
Kelliousme Posted November 28, 2018 Posted November 28, 2018 Just posting my opinion: I think it's freaking disgusting. I would NEVER date or even talk to an adult male who's into young under-aged Japanese school girls. If you see a random man on the train or something and you witness them harassing young HS girls by giving them the "up and down" look and constantly staring at their legs, what would you think? Would you think they're decent? In your case it's even worse. He asks you to dress just like them. Omg that's such a huge red flag as a boyfriend AND as a decent human being.
Veronica73 Posted November 28, 2018 Posted November 28, 2018 I’m not going to comment on the young Japanese schoolgirl thing, but taking photos of girls or women you don’t know who you think are attractive, to look at later, is creepy as hell. I’d dump him just on that alone. I mean seriously...isn’t there enough crap on the internet that you don’t need to violate random girls/women you meet in real life that way?! That’s seriously creepy and gross. 1
d0nnivain Posted November 28, 2018 Posted November 28, 2018 Hi, I am 40 years old but been consistently been address as a 'girl' by alot of people. Not sure what that means. And right now I am so.confused. Both of us are in role play but this seems to spark off something that is way off. We got so much chemistry together and I am basically crying myself to no end now. Role playing between consenting adults is fine. It's his behavior with his actual students that is the problem & you know it. You also realize that it's your youthful appearance that makes him like you. He's attracted to parts that won't get him arrested. Who you are as a person is meaningless to him which leaves you hollow. Find a different man who enjoys the occasional role playing fantasy but who isn't taking illegal secret pictures of children for his personal gratification. 1
some_username1 Posted November 28, 2018 Posted November 28, 2018 No, I was never insinuating that a thread like this would CUASE someone to be a molester. But the attitudes “school children are hot” “boys will be boys”. Plaid skirts and knee socks are sexy - those are attitudes that lead to the victimization of children. Oh most certainly this is a cultural issue. There is nothing intrinsically sexy about knee socks for example, but socially it has been sexualized. Socially we are saying “yes it’s acceptable to sexualize children” “yes it’s acceptable for old men to want to have sex with girls the same age as their grandchildren”. These things are not done because it’s good for young girls, it’s because men still set the stage and they have said this is what they desire, and it is what is being catered to. I wonder.... why did this American move to Japan? Was it to indulge in his fetish? Just like pedophiles like to travel to countries that do not protect their children from sexual tourism? Just because it’s rampant, doesn’t mean it’s moral. With respect women are the world's worst when it comes to making stuff sexy. Look at the young girls at halloween for instance, taking what should be fun dressing up and turning it into who can wear the sluttiest costume- do you find yourself complaining at them for objectifying *themselves*? No you blame the men for looking. Not that I agree with what is going on in this particular thread as that is some very dodgy acting out on desire going on, but the whole objectifying narrative and men's desires being catered for, at least in the west, often starts with women and what they actively *choose* to wear. Again, for the record I'm not suggesting that people should be molested for what they choose to wear just pointing out you can't just blame men for an over-sexualised culture... 1
jgraham11 Posted November 28, 2018 Posted November 28, 2018 With respect women are the world's worst when it comes to making stuff sexy. Look at the young girls at halloween for instance, taking what should be fun dressing up and turning it into who can wear the sluttiest costume- do you find yourself complaining at them for objectifying *themselves*? No you blame the men for looking. Not that I agree with what is going on in this particular thread as that is some very dodgy acting out on desire going on, but the whole objectifying narrative and men's desires being catered for, at least in the west, often starts with women and what they actively *choose* to wear. Again, for the record I'm not suggesting that people should be molested for what they choose to wear just pointing out you can't just blame men for an over-sexualised culture... Spot on, couldn't have said it any better myself. It's a two way street!
khalessi Posted November 29, 2018 Posted November 29, 2018 Honestly to be honest this would be a huge red flag for me... its fetishism
stillafool Posted November 29, 2018 Posted November 29, 2018 Japanese school girls are dressed rather.. provocatively. I can't say I blame him entirely as another man. Now if they're like 12 or 13 years old then yeah that's just weird, but a Japanese girl who is 17/18 wearing those uniforms? I mean it objectifies them, I've never understood why that's an acceptable thing to wear to school, but hey it is what it is. How are they dressed provocatively? They dress the same way school girls do in the US they just look different in their uniforms. If anything, they look younger and more innocent than American girls their age.
stillafool Posted November 29, 2018 Posted November 29, 2018 Hi, I am 40 years old but been consistently been address as a 'girl' by alot of people. Not sure what that means. And right now I am so.confused. Both of us are in role play but this seems to spark off something that is way off. We got so much chemistry together and I am basically crying myself to no end now. Are you Asian?
Author ATPY Posted November 30, 2018 Author Posted November 30, 2018 Are you Asian? Yes, I am Asian. And I found out more disturbing stuff about him. I am seriously thinking of lodging a police report of him before I fly out of Japan. And yes, seeing all your advises, I realized how foolish I am. Thanks everyone.
d0nnivain Posted November 30, 2018 Posted November 30, 2018 File the police report. Better safe then sorry.
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