Gretchen12 Posted November 28, 2018 Posted November 28, 2018 If you're not too serious and hurt, it's not a big deal. So what if you hit on her? It was not harrassment. You can still go back if you have an easy going attitude. That would mean you must fully accept she is not interested. It's a compliment whenever a man is interested. And it is natural for beautiful women to have admirers. You're a man, why wouldn't you like her? It can be known openly that you like this attractive woman but your feelings are not reciprocated. It's only bad if you are dark, tormented, bitter, insecure and too dramatic.
preraph Posted November 28, 2018 Posted November 28, 2018 Yeah, but she's a masseuse, so now this is going to be creepy for her and uncomfortable. She knows he may get aroused and wants her. Nope. My guess, if she knows he scheduled, she'll hand him off to a male masseuse when he comes in. He said he can't afford it anyway and was only going because of her. It's finito.
Author sad0 Posted November 29, 2018 Author Posted November 29, 2018 No you didn't just ask her for coffee, you kept at her with each excuse she gave you, when she was obviously dodging your advances. She's left a bit uncomfortable, feeling awkward for trying to turn you down. No women feels good about rejecting someone, so stop being a sorry sap. It happens to everyone. You are the one that obsessed over her, spinning ideas in your head that she must like you.....she was just doing her job. This strikes a cord with me because I have been in her shoes, and all I can say is, just because a girl is nice to you and talks to you doesn't always mean romantic interest. Gosh I can't count the times guys would accuse me of leading them on or sobbing over the phone because I won't go out with them when I did nothing to indicate romantic interest. I don't deny it was hard for her to not say yes to me. But this whole experience left me hurt as well. I wanted to ask her out the second time I scheduled with her. I made time for it and had to spend money; and I failed. I said nothing when the chance came and she just walked out, touching my shoulder saying she'll see me next time. I drove home a wreck. I admit I don't have the greatest self-esteem. I decided to go for the third time because I wanted her to know how I feel. And it didn't work out for me. I went through all of this because I liked her very much. I don't know how else to explain it to say that I'm hurt the way things ended. Sorry if I'm a "sorry sap"; just trying to share. Yeah, but she's a masseuse, so now this is going to be creepy for her and uncomfortable. She knows he may get aroused and wants her. Nope. My guess, if she knows he scheduled, she'll hand him off to a male masseuse when he comes in. He said he can't afford it anyway and was only going because of her. It's finito. No she wouldn't hand me off. She's said she'd like to see me again even though she's not sure about me. She respects me that much because of the kind of client that I was for her throughout all our sessions. And I don't think I said I'm completely broke and can't afford another session ever again.
smackie9 Posted December 2, 2018 Posted December 2, 2018 TiP: never ever put a girl up on a pedestal and admire her for days/weeks/months, investing your feelings like that. You invest your feelings when you are in a relationship. That will stop you from obsessing and getting yourself hurt. When you get all googly eyed, swooning in love, it becomes creepy to a girl, just saying.
robtmufc Posted December 3, 2018 Posted December 3, 2018 Feel like a lot of people are being unnecessarily harsh on this guy. Advice: Put this down as experience, it didn't work out but at least you managed to ask her out. Next time do it to a girl when you're out on the town/supermarket/gym etc somewhere where its not at their work. From what I've read it seems like you lack self confidence, don't overthink everything (I know its easy to say that than do I do it myself sometimes) just accept it at face value and try again with someone else! 1
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