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For the last few years I have been coming to a nice chilled out village with a beach in Phuket. Last year I stayed for 2 months. I liked it so much I was thinking about how I could move here from the UK to live. The place is called Naiyang as I have given up partying and drinking and drugs and smoking it has got everything for me nice beach a couple of nice quiet bars hot sunny weather for most of the year cheat to live and I have made a few thai and expat friends here.

 

Anyhow after 2 months there last year it came time for me to do my visa run. So having made friends with this Canadian guy. I was telling him how I want to move to Naiyang but find an Asian girlfriend but the only girls who speak English in Phuket speak broken English are mostly the bar girls and I don’t want one of them. The only other girls who are not bargirls speak very little English or the ones that speak broken engkish r hard to find. So the Canadian guy is telling me to go to Philippines to find a nice Asian girl as they are more westernised and speak fluent English.

 

So I join a Philippines internet date site and buy a ticket to Manila. I end up meeting a city girl in Manila who is working in a bank and got 2 teenage boys to support and her husband has died from cancer. I end up going back to uk but only staying a month in the uk before I head back to Manila to be with her for a month. When I am there this time I get a very nasty throat infection. I am ill for 10 days and in hospital for 4 of those 10 days. The time before that i was in Manila I get a chill for 3 days and have the shakes for 3 days off and on.

 

I get back to uk after my second visit to Manila and before I leave I tell her no way can I live in Manila and I also very sorry about that. So my life goes on in the uk and so dose hers in Manila. It is up and down every time we text so I wonder is it worth it to carry on with her. We break up and get back together about 3 times. I decide not to go back to Manila on my planned 3rd visit in November and look for another girlfriend. We end up breaking up properly in January when I am back to Phuket I decide to head to Philippines to look for another Philippines girl I find 3 but they not right for me so I get back with my Manila girl.

 

But my 3rd visit to Philippines I get a very bad illness and when I get back to uk in March of this year I am very ill for 6 weeks. So now I never want to go back to

Philippines. Me and the Manila girl finally decided to meet up last week in Phuket and all is very very well. I wonder what all the fuss is about and why all the ups and downs. But before I have come to Phuket I had an argument with the Manila girl so I decided maybe she not right for me after all so I found on Internet date a Filipina girl in Phuket 30 minuets drive away from where I am staying so agree to meet up with her and we hit it off straight away.

 

Then the Manila girl is texting me to say she is looking into trying to get a job in Phuket. The thing is the Manila girl is very jealous lady and I only just met the new girl so to early to tell about her. So now I have feelings for 2 girls and the 2 girls have feelings for me. All I want is to have one girlfriend and live by the beach in the sun but as I am in my early 40’s and that means I have to wait until I am 50 to get a retirement visa so I can live in Phuket all year. Where as now I can only get a 30 day stamp in my passport or a 2 months visa or 6 month visa. As I have a mild learning difficultly living in Phuket by the beach suits me better than living in uk where I get very stressed out and find it hard to get a job. But I rent out my house in uk so I can live off my rent money in Phuket. My Manila girl could get a job in Gran Canaria as she has friends there and the Phuket girl is teaching English in a school there.

 

The Manila girl can leave her kids with family in Manila. I can’t live to far away from the uk as I would miss my family and it would be fun to pop back every now and then. I did try living in New Zealand and Australia for a bit as I am half nz kiwi but it was just to far away from what I know in UK.

 

Having a mild learning difficultly in the UK has made it hard to get a job or a girlfriend. Now I have 2 girls. When I only want one. I feel a bit sick now as I worry a lot about things.

 

So what should I do? Any ideas would be great. Sorry it’s such a long post.

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Larry56 Established Member

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Go for the girl who likes you the most and is the easiest to be around (doesn't make trouble to meet up with/get to know).

 

The girl who is up and down I can guarantee you is on the fence about you. The only reason she started showing more attention to you and acts like she might move to Thailand is because you started being a bit distant and she feels like she might lose you. But a woman who really likes you (on the inside and the outside) is not someone who will play with your feelings like that.

 

Go for the girl who makes your life the easiest.

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Go for the girl who makes your life the easiest.

 

That is so great. Do that.

Mrs._December Established Member

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Now WHY do you suppose there are women in the Philippines looking for husbands anywhere BUT they're own country? Could it be because they believe a man from another country will rescue them and pay for them to emigrate to that country and provide a better life for them?

 

You bet your sweet ass!

 

You said it yourself. There are certain factors that have made it extremely difficult to meet women or keep them interested in in your own country of England, but by gosh and by golly, the ladies are all lining up for you in Asia. :laugh:

 

So many of you guys actually think that the foreign women who are so eager to be your girlfriend/wife - and want you to pay and sponsor them in order to bring them to your country - are doing it for LOVE. :rolleyes:

 

LOL...sure it's 'love.' I do know they'll love you 'long time' as long as you're footing the bill.

 

My advice? Doesn't matter which one you choose - they're both likely looking for you to provide them with a better life outside their country.

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Trouble is your mild learning difficulty that excluded you from dating or getting a job in the UK will start becoming very apparent to these women once they learn the nuances of language and get to know you better and realise you are not the money pot they thought you were.

Be careful.

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Well they both make more money in a job than I ever have done when I have been employed. One works in citi bank and the other works in a school. They both support themselves. So they not after my money. Filipinas speak fluent Engkish unlike the Thais that speak broken Engkish or very little or no English. They both know I have a mild learning difficultly. They also no I not a rich man.

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