My boyfriend said via whats app he needs space, but we havent spoken since?

[Alexandra154]

My boyfriend and i had been going through a spell of arguing, but prior to this had always had a very loving 2 year relationship.

 

After telling me that he needed space to think about how our relationship had got to this, he send me a long whats app messaging basically saying he needs time, and now needs to work on himself. This was over a week ago. I didnt reply to his message as i felt hurt he couldnt even speak to me about it. He has kept us as his whats app profile photo, and assume during this time away he has just been partying with his ‘friends’. Does anyone have any advice? Shall i just wait for him to come to me?

[d0nnivain]

He's got you stuck in limbo, which is an awful place to be.

 

I'd reach out now, since it's been a week & ask to talk. Apologize for your parts in the recent arguments & ask him what he wants to do. See what he says & act accordingly.

[bathtub-row]

He's probably involved with someone else or wants to be. Which is probably why you've been arguing when that's not typical of your relationship. People who are cheating or want out of a relationship - especially men - will create arguments in order to come up with an excuse to get out of a relationship. Whether he's cheating or not, the way he's treating you is unacceptable.

 

I wouldn't say another word to him. I'd block him in every way possible, remove him from everything possible, and give him exactly what he said he needs. Silence sends a very clear message, the same as what he's sending you.

[ExpatInItaly]

What have you been arguing about, OP?

 

I would call him. He didn't have the courage to call you, I realize, but I would not be able to tolerate such little clarity on the situation. Find out what exactly he is trying to tell you regarding the future of your relationship. If this is a break-up, you deserve to know that's how he feels.

 

I am curious about one detail, though. You said he is probably partying with "friends" - any particular reason you put "friends" in quotation marks? Who are you referring to?

[preraph]

It's a breakup. And yes, he did it in such a way to keep you on the backburner while he moves on whatever female he's got his eye on now. You need to start dating right away and spend time with friends. Don't just sit there waiting in case he can't do any better (in his mind).

[Alexandra154]

We have been arguing about very triival stuff, of to which i have been at fault for some of this, so not entirely sure he ha been creating them all!

 

He has a tendancy when he is stressed to see his friends rhat are party friends, they arent his real friends at all. He still hasnt come around to seeing that yet, but he will one day.