ZA Dater Posted November 24, 2018 Posted November 24, 2018 Ok there is this lady I see every weekend at the place I have breakfast and we chat and I think she quite likes me. She is cute and she sort of hangs onto me. She has a bf. Today she asks for my number and sends me hers, that's after asking how old I am. How do I play this, obviously she has a bf bit she has this sort of nieve persona. She is now texting me..
BaileyB Posted November 24, 2018 Posted November 24, 2018 You should reply and tell her to text you when she is single.
Author ZA Dater Posted November 24, 2018 Author Posted November 24, 2018 You should reply and tell her to text you when she is single. Or I could keep texting her and have a new friend. 1
BaileyB Posted November 24, 2018 Posted November 24, 2018 (edited) Or I could keep texting her and have a new friend. Women in relationships don't generally text other men and develop new "friendships." Her boyfriend is likely to have a problem with his girlfriend giving out her number and texting other men, and you should respect that. I think you are the one being rather naive here. If your girlfriend was texting random strangers, don't you think you would have a problem with this... The fact that she hangs on you and asked you how old you are shows you that she probably doesn't want to be your "friend." How old is this lady? Edited November 24, 2018 by BaileyB 1
elaine567 Posted November 24, 2018 Posted November 24, 2018 Spend some time on the OM/OW part of the forum. Getting involved with attached men and women is not fun. It may start as just friends, it may be oodles of fun for a while but ultimately it usually becomes hell...
Author ZA Dater Posted November 24, 2018 Author Posted November 24, 2018 Women in relationships don't generally text other men and develop new "friendships." Her boyfriend is likely to have a problem with his girlfriend giving out her number and texting other men, and you should respect that. I think you are the one being rather naive here. If your girlfriend was texting random strangers, don't you think you would have a problem with this... The fact that she hangs on you and asked you how old you are shows you that she probably doesn't want to be your "friend." How old is this lady? 27. Flirted with her for a bit via text, she then ended it with "see you next weekend". It's harmless to be honest, I'd never go there with her but why not flirt. Remember I am unlikely to ever have a gf so that sort of thinking never arises at all. All I do now is try to have interesting days and nonsense like this.
Mrs._December Posted November 24, 2018 Posted November 24, 2018 ...she has this sort of nieve persona. LOL. Sure she does. And when her boyfriend finds the texts and comes looking for you, you be sure and tell him she was too 'naive' to know exactly what she was doing.
BaileyB Posted November 24, 2018 Posted November 24, 2018 It's harmless to be honest, I'd never go there with her but why not flirt. It’s not harmless fun. It’s very inappropriate for her to be texting and flirting with another man if she is in a relationship. Indeed, just wait until her boyfriend finds the texts and coming calling...
Author ZA Dater Posted November 24, 2018 Author Posted November 24, 2018 It’s not harmless fun. It’s very inappropriate for her to be texting and flirting with another man if she is in a relationship. Indeed, just wait until her boyfriend finds the texts and coming calling... I have left it. It was all pretty subtle, she drew the line and I am cool with that. She initiated everything not me I just went along with it. Again it's about the experience for me, just ironic I never ever meet anyone single.
Art_Critic Posted November 24, 2018 Posted November 24, 2018 Seems to me that she is getting ready to monkey branch... Bet 10-1 that the BF is about history and she is lining you up... If that is okay then keep texting and don't take the friendzone route.. we all know that isn't a good place to be and impossible to get out of. If the BF isn't going anywhere then the friendzone is all she can offer and you become an orbiter which isn't good... 1
elaine567 Posted November 24, 2018 Posted November 24, 2018 If the BF isn't going anywhere then the friendzone is all she can offer and you become an orbiter which isn't good... .. or her OM...
smackie9 Posted November 24, 2018 Posted November 24, 2018 Or she does back to back relationships like my brother always did. She could be lookin to move on. Give yourself a deadline say like a month....if she's still with her BF tell her no.
Author ZA Dater Posted November 24, 2018 Author Posted November 24, 2018 Nah I am going to leave it. She isn't a realistic prospect, I suspect my apparent perceived glamorous lifestyle is what fascinates her. I'll just take the good out of this experience. Did get me thinking about how I always end up with non single ones and also made me think where I should be on a Saturday night instead of sitting at home. 1
Juha Posted November 25, 2018 Posted November 25, 2018 Could be she is not happy with her current bf and is looking for a replacement. Like many people, women more, they look for a replacement before they end the current relationship. Not saying it is a good thing but it happens more than you think. I wish you luck
Purrrfect Posted November 25, 2018 Posted November 25, 2018 It's not normal to ask a guy for his number and start texting when you have a bf. Never appropriate. You are the one being naïve.
5x5 Posted November 25, 2018 Posted November 25, 2018 If you want her and she's up for it, I don't see why her having a boyfriend would hold you back.
Philosopher Posted November 25, 2018 Posted November 25, 2018 During your conversations with you, did she ever give you any hints of what her relationship with her current boyfriend is like, for example, complaining about him? It could be that she is not happy with her current boyfriend.
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