Break up because of parents disapproval.

[Nutcheesyy]

Need some solid clarify here.

 

Girlfriend (29F) and I (29F) broke up 2 weeks ago because she couldn't take the strain this relationship has been causing to her and her family. Her family had never met me before and is bias against this lesbian relationship, wants her daughter to find a man, get marry and have kids. She's bisexual anyway, so that lifestyle would be possible for her. We have been together for 2 years, we are mostly happy and in love.

 

I'm pretty upset and disappointed how she chose to give up eventually and not put a fight for us, gave in to her family's bigotry. I know I should not be expecting her to come back, but what if she does? Do I give this a second chance or screw this because she's just going to leave again when it gets tougher?

[Garcon1986]

I was on the other side of this relationship not too long ago, leaving a GF for my family. It’s brutal. I would not expect her to come back - you are asking someone to make a very painful decision. The easiest way out of this is to heal and move on.

[Nutcheesyy]

I was on the other side of this relationship not too long ago, leaving a GF for my family. It’s brutal. I would not expect her to come back - you are asking someone to make a very painful decision. The easiest way out of this is to heal and move on.

 

 

And why didn't you fight for your love? Do we really let parents control whats good and bad?

[Garcon1986]

For me it was the pain of leaving my parents who had guided me on a straight and narrow path until my last relationship. I had fought with them constantly about the righteousness of my relationship, but my previous ex started texting me out of the blue at an inopportune moment. My ex lost trust in me at that point regardless of the fact that I had not initiated the text, and my relationship went from normal and loving to not knowing when the next fight or test of loyalty or argument with my parents would come. That wore me down mentally and physically. I became exhausted from the fighting and caved. Your own GF may be feeling bits of that.

[Senorheartbreak]

I had to make an account because this struck a cord with me. I am the male version of you. My boyfriends parents found out and we broke up for what i thought were unrelated reasons at the time. It was only when we got back together that he told me his parents had found out and he struggled.

 

Fast forward to being back together and heavy depression from his side. Me doing a lot to try and support him through it. I was broken up with 2 more times. For no reason except he didnt want a relationship. So i suspect the pressures were too much for him. The last breakup was about 6 months ago and has been brutal. I love him a lot. But the way he went about things was cruel and out of the blue. He said he loved me until one day he said he didnt love anyone or anything and that was hard to take. I was never given closure. Just the cold shoulder, as i suspect its easier for him to bury his head in the sand than face up to the truth.

 

I wish the first time i just let it be and let him make the decision to come back instead of begging and crying and pleading. Your girlfriend may be back. But you have shown her what you had to offer. If she valued it, it should be enough to bring her back herself.

 

It will hurt but just start/maintain no contact so you can start to heal and grow whether she comes back or not. These situations are difficult. But you will just end up being hurt more in the long run by her.

[d0nnivain]

I can't imagine how challenging it is to be somebody (a lesbian) who draws such discrimination. To have parents who aren't accepting is heartbreaking.

 

That said your GF is simply not strong enough to stand up for herself & what she wants. In the long run she will end up unhappy & alone. As much as you care about her, you can't fix this for her. She won't change & stick up for herself until she's good & ready.

 

It's sad.