kkat Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 The scene: Telephone conversation a few days ago between ex-OW and ex-MM. They have somewhat of an ongoing "friendship" after a 10 year off/on again relationship that included living together for 3 years. Ring Ring: She: Hello? He: Hello. Blah blah blah. Blah blah blah. She: Blah blah. Blah blah blah. He/She: Mutual blah blah for 10 minutes. She: Asks simple question (why did you turn your cell phone off last night)? He: Answers simple question with a simple lie (oh I didn't, my battery died). She is fully aware this is a lie as she is a big snoop. She: Ummmm, that's not true - why'd you say that? He: What, are you calling me a liar? Are you calling me a liar? How can you accuse me of lying? I might be alot of things but I'm not a liar. Are you calling me a liar? She: Can't contain herself. Hiliarity and irony create an overload. She laughs loudly, body shaking, endangering closely guarded glass of Pinot Noir (good grief that was scary....)... He: Dazed and confused, continues the "How can you call me a liar" bit and hangs up on her....Hasn't been heard from in 3 days.... She: Still laughing. A bit sad, but also tickled...
Merin Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 So was the laugh like a manical I want to kill your lying ass laugh? OR a G'damn I'm so drunk BUT not so drunk that I don't know your a liar laugh? OR a manical, I want to kill your lying ass but I'm to drunk to slap my ass with both hands kind of laugh? I really think it's the worst of the worst when you know you're being lied to, you know the person protest to much and is so freakin indignant that they are NOT a liar when you know they ARE... Sorry.... was this hypothetical?
LauraBancroft Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 This is how a conversation between my friend Allison and her now ex-MM went. Ring ring ring She: Hello He: Hey what is the big problem that you needed to speak to me about? She: I have skipped my period and I think I might be pregnant Long pause He: What?!!! Well it isn't mine it must be your boyfriend's baby because it isn't mine! She: No it wouldn't be my boyfriend's baby we use condoms and we've always been very careful, you and I on the other hand the condom broke and you know that so I don't know why you're sitting there trying to tell me it isn't yours. He: I can't have children! She: You're such a complete liar, your wife just had a baby months ago and you want to tell me you can't have children? He: Well something happened to me after my wife got pregnant, I couldn't tell you that during our relationship but that is why I never understood why we had to use protection so much. She: Hahahahhahahahah you're so funny and utterly unbelievable. You'd go through this huge of a lie to try and get out of your obligations? Are you kidding me, you can be a real jerk at times, I hope you know that. He: What do you want? Do you want me to take a test, I told you I can't have children. She: No you know what, I don't want you to do a gd thing. What I want is for you to realize we have a problem and that I was hoping that you'd want to help out. I may want an abortion. He: It isn't mine. You're a trip, you're completely a trip. She: Ok well whatever T. You're such a jackass. He: Wha (click she hung up on him) Ten minutes later text message Him: Thanks for ruining my day She: Why would your day be ruined? Remember you can't have children!! Do not contact me again. You're a liar and I can see just how much of a dog you are, grow up and get a grip! That whole thing was absolutely hilarious. I was sitting in close range and could hear this guy freak out. Problem is now we have found out that he not only got my friend Allison pregnant but he has also impregnated a 40 year old woman that lives just up the street from his house. I am always remembered why I don't get involved with married men. This is another fine example.
whichwayisup Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 She: Hello He: Hey what is the big problem that you needed to speak to me about? She: I have skipped my period and I think I might be pregnant Long pause She: Why would your day be ruined? Remember you can't have children!! Do not contact me again. You're a liar and I can see just how much of a dog you are, grow up and get a grip! Something is off here, unless your friend is purposely now screwing with his head....SHE contacted him, not the other way around... What is your friend trying to do? Uhmm, isn't her exMM supposed to be stalking her and the police were called in? WTF is she doing contacting him in the first place?? I thought she thought he was crazy and a pyscho! And the wife having the baby afew months ago??? He: I can't have children! She: You're such a complete liar, your wife just had a baby months ago and you want to tell me you can't have children? I thought all this "Just" happened less than 3 weeks ago??? Or is that a typo, you meaning a month ago, not months. Unless I'm missing something, I don't recall you posting she had the baby already... I'm not "attacking" you Laura, just pointing out some things that don't make sense from the original info that was on LS to start.
LauraBancroft Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 Something is off here, unless your friend is purposely now screwing with his head....SHE contacted him, not the other way around... What is your friend trying to do? Uhmm, isn't her exMM supposed to be stalking her and the police were called in? WTF is she doing contacting him in the first place?? I thought she thought he was crazy and a pyscho! And the wife having the baby afew months ago??? I thought all this "Just" happened less than 3 weeks ago??? Or is that a typo, you meaning a month ago, not months. Unless I'm missing something, I don't recall you posting she had the baby already... I'm not "attacking" you Laura, just pointing out some things that don't make sense from the original info that was on LS to start. Oh and as far as that situation is concerned my BEST friend that was involved with that is doing fine and they haven't heard anything from that guy. Though his STBXW did call my BEST friend and tell her that she had given birth but there are numerous things wrong with the baby and apparently he did show up for the birth but my BEST friend hasn't heard a peep from him, thank god. But the other case I just spoke about is another FRIEND another SITUATION. I would assume that there is a lot of infidelity in the world and is just not situated with one friend. I have a lot of friends involved in cheating or doing something not quite right. It becomes tedious at times and I have to wonder why in the world they get wrapped up in such things. Weird.
zoey15 Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 Though his STBXW did call my BEST friend and tell her that she had given birth but there are numerous things wrong with the baby This is scary, were these problems caused because of your friend? Stress to the W during the pregnacy because of the affair?
LauraBancroft Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 Though his STBXW did call my BEST friend and tell her that she had given birth but there are numerous things wrong with the baby This is scary, were these problems caused because of your friend? Stress to the W during the pregnacy because of the affair? No, they happened in utero. Apparently some genetic problems of some sort and some kind of heart problem with the baby. I'm not exactly sure on all the details and not so sure I want them to be honest. I feel sad for the baby though. I really do. My best friend had nothing to do with the genetic complications and my best friend also didn't put his wife through the ringer. He did. Apparently he did a lot of other stuff too that we just weren't aware of at the time. Anyhow it is over and done with.
TXgal Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 This is how a conversation between my friend Allison and her now ex-MM went. Ring ring ring She: Hello He: Hey what is the big problem that you needed to speak to me about? She: I have skipped my period and I think I might be pregnant Long pause He: What?!!! Well it isn't mine it must be your boyfriend's baby because it isn't mine! She: No it wouldn't be my boyfriend's baby we use condoms and we've always been very careful, you and I on the other hand the condom broke and you know that so I don't know why you're sitting there trying to tell me it isn't yours. He: I can't have children! She: You're such a complete liar, your wife just had a baby months ago and you want to tell me you can't have children? He: Well something happened to me after my wife got pregnant, I couldn't tell you that during our relationship but that is why I never understood why we had to use protection so much. She: Hahahahhahahahah you're so funny and utterly unbelievable. You'd go through this huge of a lie to try and get out of your obligations? Are you kidding me, you can be a real jerk at times, I hope you know that. He: What do you want? Do you want me to take a test, I told you I can't have children. She: No you know what, I don't want you to do a gd thing. What I want is for you to realize we have a problem and that I was hoping that you'd want to help out. I may want an abortion. He: It isn't mine. You're a trip, you're completely a trip. She: Ok well whatever T. You're such a jackass. He: Wha (click she hung up on him) Ten minutes later text message Him: Thanks for ruining my day She: Why would your day be ruined? Remember you can't have children!! Do not contact me again. You're a liar and I can see just how much of a dog you are, grow up and get a grip! That whole thing was absolutely hilarious. I was sitting in close range and could hear this guy freak out. Problem is now we have found out that he not only got my friend Allison pregnant but he has also impregnated a 40 year old woman that lives just up the street from his house. I am always remembered why I don't get involved with married men. This is another fine example. OH MY GOD!! This pisses me off to no end and makes me completely sick. What a f*cking, self centered, narcissistic, a**h***! There was a point, where I got pregnant by my MM... When I told him, he never once questioned if it was his or not, he knew I wouldn't lie about that, and he never blamed me. He took immediate responsibility, and told me he would support me with whatever decision I made. He left it in my hands... No pressure... I guess I was fortunate that he wasn't paranoid, or thought I was a liar, and trusted it was his. Besides I would have been more than happy to test paternity... No prob. But he didn't bother even asking, "Is it mine?". If he had done what this guy did, I would have flown off the handle .I don't know what I would have done... But that's completely uncalled for, and quite immature for a grown man... she needs to tell him to go f *ck himself... Sometimes I hate men... Sorry for the language... this pissed me off.. BLAH!
whichwayisup Posted September 13, 2005 Posted September 13, 2005 Different friend, different case! Ah k. Oh and as far as that situation is concerned my BEST friend that was involved with that is doing fine and they haven't heard anything from that guy. Though his STBXW did call my BEST friend and tell her that she had given birth but there are numerous things wrong with the baby and apparently he did show up for the birth but my BEST friend hasn't heard a peep from him, thank god. But the other case I just spoke about is another FRIEND another SITUATION. I would assume that there is a lot of infidelity in the world and is just not situated with one friend. I have a lot of friends involved in cheating or doing something not quite right. It becomes tedious at times and I have to wonder why in the world they get wrapped up in such things. Weird. That is weird. That you know so many who are involved in affairs. Sorry to hear that the baby isn't as healthy as it (he/she?) should be. Very sad and my heart goes out to them all. Even though ConfusedMM has made many mistakes, I wouldn't wish this situation involving the baby on anybody. Just sad all around.
LauraBancroft Posted September 14, 2005 Posted September 14, 2005 OH MY GOD!! This pisses me off to no end and makes me completely sick. What a f*cking, self centered, narcissistic, a**h***! There was a point, where I got pregnant by my MM... When I told him, he never once questioned if it was his or not, he knew I wouldn't lie about that, and he never blamed me. He took immediate responsibility, and told me he would support me with whatever decision I made. He left it in my hands... No pressure... I guess I was fortunate that he wasn't paranoid, or thought I was a liar, and trusted it was his. Besides I would have been more than happy to test paternity... No prob. But he didn't bother even asking, "Is it mine?". If he had done what this guy did, I would have flown off the handle .I don't know what I would have done... But that's completely uncalled for, and quite immature for a grown man... she needs to tell him to go f *ck himself... Sometimes I hate men... Sorry for the language... this pissed me off.. BLAH! She did, he text her again yesterday and called her a few choice names. This guy he's really quite immature. It isn't even funny, but she ultimately told him that if he didn't back off and leave her alone after his unbelievable behavior that she would print out their entire chat histories and send it to his wife via courier certified mail. I think that got her point across cause she hasn't heard from him again. This guy is a liar, but you know what I suspect that most MM's are really. I don't think they are intentionally bad people but when it comes to their bread and butter they are like wild dogs and will fight you tooth and nail to keep that part of their safe and uninterrupted. WWIU, Yes it is sad, I'm not overly sure of all the details. My best friend said that she told "A" (wife's name) that she was sorry to hear that and that if she could do anything to help her out she would but as far as any more of the drama goes that she doesn't want any part of it. I hate to hear of a small child suffering. I guess that makes me lucky to have all three of mine healthy.
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