Grisha Posted November 23, 2018 Posted November 23, 2018 We’ve been in a relationship for 8 months. The last 2 months have been difficult. Her mom passed away and she got distant. I became scarce. Started acting too available. Trying to take her on trips. Doing things I usually wouldn’t do. She would deny trips and it made me get distant. We both became distant to the point where 5 days went by and neither one of us contacted the other. After I finally contacted her again asking if she wanted to go to this festival she responded the next day telling me she doesn’t feel like we are meant to be because she’s constantly feeling unsure about me and her feelings. She said she didn’t want to stay the night with me anymore and didn’t want to go on anymore dates. At least not now since that’s how she was feeling. I responded telling her if that’s how she feels then we need to break up and maybe then she’ll realize.. Two weeks went by and she randomly texted me telling me good things in her job life and household. I kept things short and simple and just congratulated her. A week later she texted me again telling me more good news about her and I simply did the same response. Throughout our breakup she’s been posting breakup things on social media and half seemed like she wasn’t over me and the other half was like she’s moving on. A week later (which was 3 days ago) she sent me a YouTube tarot video in the middle of the night telling me that I should express my feelings and speak up the truth. I ignored that video text because I’m tired of her not being clear with me. I cry every night and hardly sleep. I love her to death and don’t even consider dating anytime soon. but I feel like I can’t be the one to tell her everything I feel because it’ll show all my weakness and I don’t want that. I told her to come to me and tell me if she changes her mind. She never said anything about us seeing each other or anything about how she feels about me. Can someone please help let me know what I should do to somehow fix this situation? She’s now talking to some guy at work and invited him to her families thanksgiving dinner. That absolutely broke me. I’m just so stuck. I feel like I should keep waiting until she comes to me but she’s told me in the past that she’d never chase a guy.. I’m not even sure who broke up with who? She was the one that initiated it but I went all the way through with it and made sure it happened.
Marc878 Posted November 23, 2018 Posted November 23, 2018 We’ve been in a relationship for 8 months. The last 2 months have been difficult. Her mom passed away and she got distant. I became scarce. Started acting too available. Trying to take her on trips. Doing things I usually wouldn’t do. She would deny trips and it made me get distant. We both became distant to the point where 5 days went by and neither one of us contacted the other. After I finally contacted her again asking if she wanted to go to this festival she responded the next day telling me she doesn’t feel like we are meant to be because she’s constantly feeling unsure about me and her feelings. She said she didn’t want to stay the night with me anymore and didn’t want to go on anymore dates. At least not now since that’s how she was feeling. I responded telling her if that’s how she feels then we need to break up and maybe then she’ll realize.. Her actions tell you it's over Two weeks went by and she randomly texted me telling me good things in her job life and household. I kept things short and simple and just congratulated her. A week later she texted me again telling me more good news about her and I simply did the same response. Throughout our breakup she’s been posting breakup things on social media and half seemed like she wasn’t over me and the other half was like she’s moving on. A week later (which was 3 days ago) she sent me a YouTube tarot video in the middle of the night telling me that I should express my feelings and speak up the truth. I ignored that video text because I’m tired of her not being clear with me. Quit responding to breadcrumbs. It gets you nothing but keeps you bound up in This. I cry every night and hardly sleep. I love her to death and don’t even consider dating anytime soon. but I feel like I can’t be the one to tell her everything I feel because it’ll show all my weakness and I don’t want that. I told her to come to me and tell me if she changes her mind. She never said anything about us seeing each other or anything about how she feels about me. She's moved on as you should. Can someone please help let me know what I should do to somehow fix this situation? She’s now talking to some guy at work and invited him to her families thanksgiving dinner. That absolutely broke me. I’m just so stuck. I feel like I should keep waiting until she comes to me but she’s told me in the past that she’d never chase a guy.. I’m not even sure who broke up with who? She was the one that initiated it but I went all the way through with it and made sure it happened. Strict no contact. Right now you are keeping yourself in this.
Author Grisha Posted November 23, 2018 Author Posted November 23, 2018 Strict no contact. Right now you are keeping yourself in this. I am keeping myself in this because I feel like from the video she sent me she wants me to come to her but sheÂ’s too afraid of me rejecting her. I feel like because she has reached out to me 3 times once every week, she was hoping I would respond in a conversational way. Do you mean no contact as in donÂ’t even respond to her texts?
Revelation Posted November 24, 2018 Posted November 24, 2018 What if you were to respond to her next "random" video/text with asking what she wishes to see between you two, as far as the relationship?
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